My brother thought that he had a weak personality until he went to college. He realized that it wasn't that he had a weak personality, it's that everyone else's personality in the family was on steroids.

Seems I did too good of a job yesterday at outside work gig. And today they don't need me. Oh well. There goes a couple hundred bucks. Hopefully being cool about it will mean they will open the door for future shows a bit easier. But hey, that means I got the day to myself. In a very introverted way (yes, I'm reading the article). Only on page one so far, aside from the happiness thing, the other thing I am boggled with, that there is a Shyness Research Institute at Indiana University Southeast.

I'm not sure if I'm more on the shy side, or introvert side.

I'm right on the border of introverted and extroverted. Like James Taylor and Amy Tan, who have similar Meyers- Briggs as me.(Which I wouldn't remember if the grouping hadn't been a little odd.)

When I was a kid, people always told me I was shy, and then a teacher told me that shyness was just arrogance, because I expected people to be paying attention to me, so I interacted more after that. Which, obviously I was not shy, just introverted, and the teacher was a bitch.

ETA - "Their cognitive fatigue testifies to the fact that "acting counter-dispositionally is depleting."" is the truest thing ever. I can be as socially gregarious as you like, but I will have a limit and I will need to sit quietly and maybe nap afterwards. That shit is work.

I know I'm not an introvert, but after a lot of socializing, I need a quiet night or two hermiting.

I'm not sure if I'm more on the shy side, or introvert side.

I think that the difference is that shy people want to interract, but are unable to, but introverts just don't want to interact.

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I know I'm not an introvert, but after a lot of socializing, I need a quiet night or two hermiting.

Me too, and my psychologist friend says that's what makes me an introvert, not how you act, but how you recharge.

I am a shy extrovert.

OMG I said I'd phonebank tonight but I am still exhausted and feeling slightly nauseated. How shitty am I if I cancel?

Me too, and my psychologist friend says that's what makes me an introvert, not how you act, but how you recharge.

Huh. Really? Because in no universe would I describe myself as an introvert. I just also need time to myself every now and then.

Um, everyone needs time to themselves. But after a weekend (since Thursday night) where he longest I was alone was one streetcar ride to and from lunch on Friday? The only thing I miss is my bed, not alone time. Though I'll be perfectly happy to have some, I'm not craving it. But I do, sometimes...

(eta: am agreeing that even extroverts need aloneness. This extrovert needs sleep, mostly...)

I would guess everyone needs some kind of balance between being social and being alone and can get too much of either. The question is, in general, when you are low on energy, which is more liable to perk you up, being alone or being with people? That's how it was explained to me.

I am classic introvert: being around people, even when it is fun, just exhausts me.