Oh, and at the risk of having just been terribly rude, I have been following the funeral conversation and agree with Steph completely, Connie. When you sister died, you expressed a great deal of thought and concern about that experience that in no way correlates with the current situation.

Um, bath and vampire, clearly? I mean, the hair thing won't matter because you don't have an early morning.

Plus, I have a really nice honey-something bomb to toss in. Kind of incongruent with the material, but nice anyway.

amyth, I'm sorry if I put words in your mouth, and please tell me if I was wrongheaded.

No, that's totally it. It's like he's planning on not going. Which would sound uncharitable, if not for the fact that he literally said that it "wasn't worth it" to visit our brother unless he came out of the coma, as if there wasn't an entire wing of the family there in need of support, too, and has completely stopped calling my sister-in-law because as he has said on numerous occasions (and said again tonight) "I can't handle it when she gets upset." I made a point of saying tonight that I make sure to call her every few days because I want her to know that she has my support, because what she's going through is so horrific.

Connie, I don't think the situations are similar at all.

Hey, you know, this powerpoint won't read itself!!

SRSLY.

Wait, you can have a bath with a honey-something bomb and vampires and you bothered to ask? That is bathvana. It's a bath, honey and vampires. It's only missing a delicious adult beverage for perfection.

Go. Bath.

Wait, you can have a bath with a honey-something bomb and vampires and you bothered to ask?

I'm totally laughing out loud.

You are right, of course. I was just being lazy and seeking validation of my deepest desire enough to get off my bum.

Even Bartleby will enjoy the bath. I put his bed next to the tub and he knows I'm not going anywhere for awhile so he can sleep in peace.

That does it. I'm doin' it.

I also choose vampires over werewolves

Team Edward???

Even my cat knows that bath time is good.

and while I believe that middle brother is being an idiot , I will say unlike gov't agencies. , Most corporations do not have backup/ contingency plans. I used to ask DH hat would happen if he got hit by a bus -- and then one of the guy under him did get hit by a bus ( he was fine, but out for quite a while )

Thanks, all, I suppose my feeling a bit tender on the point is a, well, point in my favor.

I'm sorry, amyth, that you don't get to be pleasantly surprised by non-douchey behavior from him.

amyth, your middle brother seems to be not so much flaky as so self-centered that it never occurs to him that visiting his brother or going to his funeral is not All About Him.

I am definitely an INTJ introvert. At any gathering, even F2Fs, I spend my time thinking that these people don't want to talk to me because I'm too old, not cool and lousy at small talk. I never learned how to read people so that I can be smoothly part of a conversation, rather that either shutting up or talking too much. What's funny about this conversation is that I think of many of you as much better at these things.

I don't think there's any good or bad about going to funerals. However, if there are people who care if you're there or need your support, it's rather appalling to say you're not going because it's inconvenient.

Wow, no more getting-hit-by-a-bus jokes for me! Dude.

Thanks, Connie, and I'm sorry, too, for bringing up such an unpleasant topic for you.

Thanks, Bitches for letting me vent! I think I've gotten it out of my system.

ETA: yes, Ginger, you're right, flaky was imprecise. He's definitely self-centered. But I need to learn to let it go a little better, because getting angry about it doesn't get me anywhere except angry.