Spike? It's you. It's really you! My therapist thought I was holding on to false hope, but…I knew you'd come back. You're like…you're like Gandalf the White, resurrected from the pit of the Balrog, more beautiful than ever. Oh…he's alive Frodo. He's alive.

Andrew ,'Damage'


Spike's Bitches 46: Don't I get a cookie?  

[NAFDA] Spike-centric discussion. Lusty, lewd (only occasionally crude), risqué (and frisqué), bawdy (Oh, lawdy!), flirty ('cuz we're purty), raunchy talk inside. Caveat lector.


Polter-Cow - Jan 08, 2011 10:23:35 pm PST #12662 of 30000
What else besides ramen can you scoop? YOU CAN SCOOP THIS WORLD FROM DARKNESS!

Hey, P-C!! Nilly me the link to your review of House of Leaves, will you? Need to email it to someone.

Ha, I was just showing that to my brother's GF. Hope your friend enjoys it.


Anne W. - Jan 09, 2011 2:11:04 am PST #12663 of 30000
The lost sheep grow teeth, forsake their lambs, and lie with the lions.

It could have been me. Was Jeeves having continued accidents after a UTI was resolved?

Oh, yes. Very much so.

Seska, that is appalling.


WindSparrow - Jan 09, 2011 4:10:47 am PST #12664 of 30000
Love is stronger than death and harder than sorrow. Those who practice it are fierce like the light of stars traveling eons to pierce the night.

I should look into whether there might be possibly be any local volunteers available, if I can't sort out the government agency stuff. Good idea - thanks.

My thought was perhaps you could offer some kind of incentive to students in the class to entice and reward them. Depending on how much assistance you need it might be as little as a candy bar, or as big as a meal that isn't school food (home cooked or otherwise, and depending on how many students are stuck living at the Uni as well as how good the school food is there) - and have them take turns.

I don't suppose it would be possible to persuade the uni to give extra course credit to a single student from the class who might be persuaded to assist on a regular basis? If I were in charge of the world, that would be totally practical. But many forms of bureaucracy would be utterly unable to handle it, and your uni has shown itself to be less helpful than we'd like.


Ginger - Jan 09, 2011 4:31:11 am PST #12665 of 30000
"It didn't taste good. It tasted soooo horrible. It tasted like....a vodka martini." - Matilda

The department doesn't have student assistants they could assign to you for a couple of hours a week? Are there graduate students you could pay a lot less to? (It is probably wrong that I think of grad students as cheap labor, but when I worked at a university, there were always grad students scrounging for money.)


Seska (the Watcher-in-Training) - Jan 09, 2011 5:45:37 am PST #12666 of 30000
"We're all stories, in the end. Just make it a good one, eh?"

I can't see the university (the one that has taken four months to get me academic support workers and caused all manner of hassle over it) agreeing to give me grad student time for this, especially as there are very few grad students in my department. I could use your idea of sorting out volunteers myself in exchange for meals or similar, Andi, but it would probably be frowned upon by the university as it wouldn't be officially-sanctioned volunteering (but maybe I could organise it very informally with friends of friends). And yes, Ginger, you have a good point that I could possibly pay students less, much as I'd hate doing that. That's another option I can think about if the government agency turns me down. I'm focusing on trying to get them to agree, for now.

Right now I am utterly losing the plot over this. The Girl is downstairs writing out my detailed list of reasons why I need this support worker, in the hope of persuading the government agency. I have to go back to church to sing Evensong tonight, and I just want to sleep. I should go to the doctor's tomorrow, but I am a) afraid of being forced to see a psychiatrist (never goes well for me) and b) worried about all the PhD work I'm missing at the moment. Oh and c) doctors make me cry.


Hil R. - Jan 09, 2011 5:55:59 am PST #12667 of 30000
Sometimes I think I might just move up to Vermont, open a bookstore or a vegan restaurant. Adam Schlesinger, z''l

{{{Seska}}}

Sorry I don't know the British university system well enough to have any actual advice for you. (It seems like it's really different from the system at American universities.)


sj - Jan 09, 2011 6:54:14 am PST #12668 of 30000
"There are few hours in life more agreeable than the hour dedicated to the ceremony known as afternoon tea."

{{{{{Seska}}}}} I'm so sorry you have to deal with this. I hope you can find a solution that works for you.


Seska (the Watcher-in-Training) - Jan 09, 2011 7:04:37 am PST #12669 of 30000
"We're all stories, in the end. Just make it a good one, eh?"

Thanks for the support, all. You are truly wonderful.


WindSparrow - Jan 09, 2011 8:09:00 am PST #12670 of 30000
Love is stronger than death and harder than sorrow. Those who practice it are fierce like the light of stars traveling eons to pierce the night.

Seska, I hope that wasn't an overload of helpfulness, and now you are having to say "thanks" when what you really want to say is, "shut the hell up".


WindSparrow - Jan 09, 2011 9:59:13 am PST #12671 of 30000
Love is stronger than death and harder than sorrow. Those who practice it are fierce like the light of stars traveling eons to pierce the night.

roomie says he smudged with sage. Bleh. One more reason for me not to be a hippie.

Suggest he go with chamomile next time - it has a much more pleasant burning smell - like a really nice wood fire, only with a sweet, flowery note to it. Or, maybe he should do it when you are out of town so there is plenty of time for it to dissipate before you get back.