Oh Steph, what a nightmare of a day!

I hope you find a way to turn off that tape loop in your head. Feeling resentful doesn't make you an asshole. We all have those moments.

Oh Steph, how awful for you and the family.

Burrell is wise, feeling resentful does not make you an asshole...that, or every single sentient human is one...wait, that might be true anyway...but honestly, you are a good, good person with tons of caring. That tape loop is a habit, KICK IT!

I hope all goes well with your da and that Chloe eases back into normalcy soon.

Poor all of you.

Damn, Steph. That sucks for real. And yeah, just b/c the tape loop won't shut off doesn't mean it's right. You may not be able to shut it off, but you don't have to buy into it. It's just an old tape.

As my therapist used to say to me over and over, "You can't control how you feel, you can only control how you act. Judging feelings is a waste of energy." It was INCREDIBLY helpful to me to give myself permission to have my own feelings. I still struggle with it, but not as much.

Teppy, you are not a bad daughter for having feelings that aren't pleasant about the way your father depends on you and does not ask others for help. What Scrappy's therapist said is right. Be gentle with yourself. You have had a really hard time this year. None of that is your fault. And you are a good daughter.

Ugh, Tep, I hope 2011 is better for you.

I would feel plenty damn resentful of being someone's only caretaker too, no matter how much I loved them. I would do it, but I would still be a grouch about it, because that's a lot of work.

I am not a saint, nor do I aspire to me. Don't kill yourself about being human and grouchy. You can love someone and still want to stab them as you help them. If you were all LALALALA I AM SO SELFLESS AND PERFECT, I SO ENJOY BEING THE ONLY ONE WHO SUPPORTS MY DAD IT IS AWESOME, we wouldn't like you as much.

Frankly, I would worry about your sanity, and possibly want to slap you a little. (And not in a the fun way.)

That's funny, we'll be at Nanita's this afternoon. What a coincidence.

Yup!

Oh my, I'm so sorry that so many are having end of year sadness.

Quick recovery wishes for smonster's sister and Burrell's MIL.

{{Connie}} I am so sorry for your loss.

Nora, so much comfort and strength to you and your friends. What a horror.

Welcome back to Ginger and Shir.

"You can't control how you feel, you can only control how you act. Judging feelings is a waste of energy."

I will have to try and remember that and not waste energy for feeling like a bad mom for resenting my son for sucking so much joy out of life. Blah. Can't he just be 30 already?

{{Teppy, Tim, & puppy}} I hate when I have to leave Brandy for exactly this reason.

Caretaker can be a shit ass role, Steph. Especially when you haven't really signed up for it. It's needed, and it's rewarding, and it's a good thing. But it also sometimes sucks balls, and there no reason at all you shouldn't say so.

{{{Teppy}}} I'm sorry you have had such a difficult year. I hope 2011 is much better for you.

I'm watching OMWF while baking for the party tomorrow. I should be cleaning too.