Teppy, you are not a bad daughter for having feelings that aren't pleasant about the way your father depends on you and does not ask others for help. What Scrappy's therapist said is right. Be gentle with yourself. You have had a really hard time this year. None of that is your fault. And you are a good daughter.
I battle evil. But I don't really win. The bad keeps coming back and getting stronger. Like that kid in the story, the boy that stuck his finger in the duck.
Buffy ,'Showtime'
Spike's Bitches 46: Don't I get a cookie?
[NAFDA] Spike-centric discussion. Lusty, lewd (only occasionally crude), risqué (and frisqué), bawdy (Oh, lawdy!), flirty ('cuz we're purty), raunchy talk inside. Caveat lector.
WindSparrow - Dec 31, 2010 8:48:23 am PST #12072 of 30000
Love is stronger than death and harder than sorrow. Those who practice it are fierce like the light of stars traveling eons to pierce the night.
Strix - Dec 31, 2010 8:52:04 am PST #12073 of 30000
A dress should be tight enough to show you're a woman but loose enough to flee from zombies. — Ginger
Ugh, Tep, I hope 2011 is better for you.
I would feel plenty damn resentful of being someone's only caretaker too, no matter how much I loved them. I would do it, but I would still be a grouch about it, because that's a lot of work.
I am not a saint, nor do I aspire to me. Don't kill yourself about being human and grouchy. You can love someone and still want to stab them as you help them. If you were all LALALALA I AM SO SELFLESS AND PERFECT, I SO ENJOY BEING THE ONLY ONE WHO SUPPORTS MY DAD IT IS AWESOME, we wouldn't like you as much.
Frankly, I would worry about your sanity, and possibly want to slap you a little. (And not in a the fun way.)
hippocampus - Dec 31, 2010 9:06:49 am PST #12074 of 30000
not your mom's socks.
That's funny, we'll be at Nanita's this afternoon. What a coincidence.
Yup!
Laura - Dec 31, 2010 9:08:28 am PST #12075 of 30000
Our wings are not tired.
Oh my, I'm so sorry that so many are having end of year sadness.
Quick recovery wishes for smonster's sister and Burrell's MIL.
{{Connie}} I am so sorry for your loss.
Nora, so much comfort and strength to you and your friends. What a horror.
Welcome back to Ginger and Shir.
"You can't control how you feel, you can only control how you act. Judging feelings is a waste of energy."
I will have to try and remember that and not waste energy for feeling like a bad mom for resenting my son for sucking so much joy out of life. Blah. Can't he just be 30 already?
{{Teppy, Tim, & puppy}} I hate when I have to leave Brandy for exactly this reason.
brenda m - Dec 31, 2010 9:11:45 am PST #12076 of 30000
If you're going through hell/keep on going/don't slow down/keep your fear from showing/you might be gone/'fore the devil even knows you're there
Caretaker can be a shit ass role, Steph. Especially when you haven't really signed up for it. It's needed, and it's rewarding, and it's a good thing. But it also sometimes sucks balls, and there no reason at all you shouldn't say so.
sj - Dec 31, 2010 9:23:02 am PST #12077 of 30000
"There are few hours in life more agreeable than the hour dedicated to the ceremony known as afternoon tea."
{{{Teppy}}} I'm sorry you have had such a difficult year. I hope 2011 is much better for you.
I'm watching OMWF while baking for the party tomorrow. I should be cleaning too.
Nora Deirdre - Dec 31, 2010 9:29:59 am PST #12078 of 30000
I’m responsible for my own happiness? I can’t even be responsible for my own breakfast! (Bojack Horseman)
I cleaned the bathrooms and changed the sheets. Heaven.
Seska (the Watcher-in-Training) - Dec 31, 2010 9:43:02 am PST #12079 of 30000
"We're all stories, in the end. Just make it a good one, eh?"
My dad had rotator cuff surgery, and I was, as usual, his caretaker, because he will never, EVER call anyone else.
I empathise, Teppy. I'm alone this NYE because The Girl was summoned to be with her parents when her brothers buggered off skiing. Wishing you a better 2011, and many healing vibes for the dog.
Shir - Dec 31, 2010 10:19:07 am PST #12080 of 30000
"And that's why God Almighty gave us fire insurance and the public defender".
Oh, Steph. God dammit. You've got ton of my ~mas.
And thanks, everyone. It's good to be back. But I think I'll update when it'll be more quiet around here. For now, I do hope 2011 will show you nothing but its finest, and I hope y'all had a good Christmas.
sumi - Dec 31, 2010 11:16:44 am PST #12081 of 30000
Art Crawl!!!
Teppy, it does suck to be the lone caretaker. The fact that it sucks and you feel it doesn't mean that you're not a good daughter.