Telling her its her choice, respecting her to make the decision

This and giving her all the info she needs is about all you can do, it sounds like. Trying to keep them apart is just going to make her want him more and not let go. If she's physically safe, that might be all that can be done at this point. And giving her someplace to talk once it goes badly.

So I've arranged pet-sitting for this weekend, somewhat belatedly. Thank heavens for next door pet-loving neighbors. Now I just need to shower, scoop the cat pans, and pack. Just as soon as I watch The Countdown and finish my cocoa.

Ain't nothing been created that can keep a girl's legs closed if she's determined to open them. If she's gonna do it, she'll find a way.

More important is making sure she's as safe as can be. Everyone has to make some dumb mistakes growing up; main thing is to make sure an ill-advised romance doesn't leave her with any permanent reminders, other than a little heartache -- which is kinda par for the course.

Best case scenario for something is always what people hope for; I say work towards avoiding the worst, wishing for the best, and providing protective gear, defensive "driving," ammo and rapid debrief.

Love is a battlefield, yo.

So I've arranged pet-sitting for this weekend, somewhat belatedly. Thank heavens for next door pet-loving neighbors.

Oh! Had an awesome time at the dog park tonight, twice. But the relevant one is that this guy is there all the time with these two dogs. Turns out, one of them isnt' his (technically). Jackson gets dropped off at his place every morning and picked up at night, unless his owner is out of town and he stays. Brian, the guy, is a "failed dog trainer" because he didn't have enough clients to keep a business going. He works from home and is happy to do any kind of dog care - walks, daycare, overnights. He charges Jackson's owner $10 a day. Lordy.

Having a dog care option with someone I have some knowledge of, who I know will take her to the DP and play, who knows dogs and training issues, and is not in the kind of environment that will automatically make Darby freak? Oh, so huge.

Darby can't really be boarded, now. She can't even go into a vet or boarding place, even the one she came to me from, without freaking out. And losing a lot of the ground we've made. And I do have times when I need to travel unexpectedly. The last time I was able to have my sister come down, but that's dicey on short notice. With him I could have him come by three or four times a day or else take her home with him.

He's a little weird. But that's pretty much par for the course with people who make their lives around dogs, I've found. I would certainly trust him to care for her and to notice and respect her issues.

brenda, that's awesome. Glad you found someone like that.

Okay, I think I'm packed for the weekend. My baby sis is graduating from college, y'all! She has perservered mightily, through hellish roommates and nervous breakdowns and four different universities. Hallelujah amen.

into the worst job market in decades, but let's celebrate first.

That`s great, Brenda. That makes a big difference. Our dog guy is a bit weird too, but great with the dogs and totally serious about their care. And he had the sign back out in front of his kennel, so I hope he`s back in business. After the deal with our band leader subletting the dog-sitting gig to our intern, I am so not into letting that happen again.
 
That`s not the rant I meant to go on. I meant to say, the Biscuit, although he never did shelter time, did have abandonment issues, so we were worried about kennels, but like everything else you`ve experienced. he did better over time and now loves his kennels. He knows the people and where to go and trots right off. So Darby might get there too. But having someone reliable who can care for her in a good environment is really important, so I`m glad you found the connection.

I got a call around 9 from my uncle-in-law. Grabbed my phone and the dude is HERE. Not just in town, he's staying less than a block from me while his parentals have some medical stuff happening. So we met for a drink!

Congrats to your sis, smonster. She is strong.

He's a little weird. But that's pretty much par for the course with people who make their lives around dogs, I've found. I would certainly trust him to care for her and to notice and respect her issues.

He sounds worth his weight in gold. I assume, since he charges $10, he's the tiniest elf ever. And Darby is lucky to know him.

And what Liese said. Kittenish does better and better almost every time at the cattery. And they are good and I trust them or I'd never have left her, but it's still a total process.

Yay Brenda! ...though I totally thought that story was going to a dating place. Hah!

Possibly because I went out with the ex tonight. Sigh. So not right for me in any way, but still super hot.

My fever has finally gone down, which is a blessed relief as last night was an adventure I do not wish to repeat. Hope I'll be bored enough to read later - my PhD books are glaring at me in guilt-inducing manner.

erin, I have no particular advice on your sister, but your methods seem sound. I hope she gets the message.

Even when I am really trying, I can't seem to do things right.