Erin, what's the worst case scenario?

well, it's far more likely that she's just giving in to 6 more months or high drama and misery.

If it's this? The damage to her family relationships if they keep going hard core on this could very well far outshine that.

If that's what's coming, it's what's coming. It does sound like the assume-she's-not-giving-up-and-make-sure-she-knows-what-she-needs-to is the one role not currently filled, and you could really benefit her by taking that on. And then, when it all inevitably goes bad, be the one person she maybe doesn't see as the enemy.

Yeah, there's no stigma in her house on having sex. Just on getting romantically involved with incredibly innapropriate guys who only want to use her for sex and then break her heart. That's the problem, know that's what's coming.

That's good news. Hopefully it doesn't happen at school either.

Sorry I'm assuming she's going to go ahead with the dumb choice...

I guess my thinking is that's where you can come in, you know? Telling her its her choice, respecting her to make the decision instead of being another person saying NO. Since, you know, that "NO" is unlikely to work.

t high fives Trudy

Trudy, i'm assuming she's going ahead with dumb choice also.

I will be very very very happy if she denies this jerk and continues learning about her sexuality with someone who actually care about her as a person. But my happiness isn't very important here....

Interesting that she's being far more chatty on facebook messaging that in person. Good to know!

I'm watching s1 Chrismukkah and I think I'm going to make hot cocoa and put Peppermint Joe Joe ice cream in it. Oh, Marissa. You are still annoying as shit.

I'm watching s1 Chrismukkah

I've been watching S1 DVDs of The OC all day since I'm home sick, and I have Chrismukkah in the laptop right now, on pause, since The Boy came home in the middle of it with drugs for me.

Oh, Marissa. You are still annoying as shit.

Truer words.

I'm still totally a Seth/Anna shipper, though.

t edit I had forgotten that one of the episodes uses the song that later became the Veronica Mars theme song! Maybe tomorrow I'll watch S1 VM.

I'm still totally a Seth/Anna shipper, though.

Totes.
I love that scene when Seth comes dancing down the hall to the Dandy Warhols. amyh and must have watched it a dozen times.

Telling her its her choice, respecting her to make the decision

This and giving her all the info she needs is about all you can do, it sounds like. Trying to keep them apart is just going to make her want him more and not let go. If she's physically safe, that might be all that can be done at this point. And giving her someplace to talk once it goes badly.

So I've arranged pet-sitting for this weekend, somewhat belatedly. Thank heavens for next door pet-loving neighbors. Now I just need to shower, scoop the cat pans, and pack. Just as soon as I watch The Countdown and finish my cocoa.

Ain't nothing been created that can keep a girl's legs closed if she's determined to open them. If she's gonna do it, she'll find a way.

More important is making sure she's as safe as can be. Everyone has to make some dumb mistakes growing up; main thing is to make sure an ill-advised romance doesn't leave her with any permanent reminders, other than a little heartache -- which is kinda par for the course.

Best case scenario for something is always what people hope for; I say work towards avoiding the worst, wishing for the best, and providing protective gear, defensive "driving," ammo and rapid debrief.

Love is a battlefield, yo.