Ooh. Lots of pretty lightning.

There's this NY Times article (I'm not done reading it yet) that suggests that male bisexuality doesn't exist either.

Fuck, I'm going to have to read the stupid thing, aren't I? Because I'm clueless when it comes to guessing their arguments....

msbelle, my COBRA costs were directly related to what I'd been paying beforehand. It was picking up their slack for exactly the same coverage.

Thunder has set off a car alarm.

I'm familiar with two takes on "no such thing as a bi-guy"

One is, "If some dude puts his dick in you you're gay and that's it." I've heard this from certain straight people.

The other is, "You just aren't ready to admit your gay, honey." This would be from certain gay dudes.

What they say about COBRA; I think I paid $400-500. It's whatever your co pays in full.

Finally finished The Wire. How do people get work done instead of evangelizing about this show every day? I'm filled with the spirit.

perhaps you would wish to ponder the ever important question -- is he wearing pants under the cassock? or perhaps some matching black boxer briefs?

Yes, I would like to ponder that. At length, and with Vartan as a live visual aid.

As far as the bi debate, I am over it. I believe in letting people define their own sexuality, and whatever they want to claim is AOK. Declaring that female bisexuality is "lesser" than male bisexuality or neater, or hotter, is an easy out, and demeaning; the article relies on implications that it's cool only if you're a hot actress. I think it can be equally problematic for both genders, especially if one doesn't meet certain societal expectations of attractiveness.

I have a bi GF who is definitely more female oriented, and we were all surprised when her mate turned out male. It just worked out that he was the best fit for her, and right time, right place.

So, is the female stance "we'll accept that you like to dabble and fool around, but if there's no dick involved, there's no deep love"?

thanks everyone. I am going to talk to HR tomorrow. I am trying to figure out what to ask for as consulting pay. I am mostly just guesstimating expenses and with my place not sold all my original budgets are blown.

The article seems to imply that that is what most female celebs who id as bi experience. Which is a disservice.

Most people who, in my experience, id as bi have something of a gender preference, some stronger than others, but all assert than it's more than a gender that seals the deal for a deep relationship.

Ugh. I was lecturing tonight on the dangers of dichotomy; it has carried over. Either/or is rarely our friend, y'all!