Thanks, msbelle! I suspect it is a harder-core version of the book we're trying.
Fred: So you don't worry that it's possible for someone to send out a biological or electronic trigger that effectively overrides your own sense of ideals and values and replaces them with an alternative coercive agenda that reduces you to a mindless meat puppet? Shopkeeper: Wow. People used to think that I was paranoid.
'Time Bomb'
Natter 66: Get Your Kicks.
Off-topic discussion. Wanna talk about corsets, pandas, duct tape, or physics? This is the place. Detailed discussion of any current-season TV must be whitefonted.
P.M. Marc - Jun 07, 2010 7:15:35 am PDT #4717 of 30001
So come, my friends, be not afraid/We are so lightly here/It is in love that we are made; In love we disappear
DavidS - Jun 07, 2010 7:16:55 am PDT #4718 of 30001
"Look, son, if it's good enough for Shirley Bassey, it's good enough for you."
Matilda and Emmett both respond pretty well to a combination of carrots and sticks. Emmett was way more likely to have a tantrum, but Matilda is much more likely to go limp with a sitdown strike or drag her feet or kill the outing with a thousand tiny cuts.
I mostly focus on behavior and timeouts as response to changing behavior. I purposefully try to leave them space for resentment and unhappiness and whatever emotional responses they're going to have. I'm not in charge of their feelings. They're just responsible for their behavior.
That noted, I'm nsm a hardass and I've also learned not to draw a lot of arbitrary lines in the sand. There are a few specific things that will warrant a timeout.
My biggest lesson came early with Emmett when he was at his most frustrating. And I had to just learn to not let myself get angry or emotionally engaged with that frustration and slow down and look him in the face and see him as a person.
And while I try to be consistent about it, there are definitely times where the best thing to do is let them off the hook. When you can see their anxiety about the issue is really eating them up.
I remember my parents doing that with me sometimes and it was always such a huge relief and engendered a lot of gratitude and willingness to work with them. Just knowing that they could bend.
Kat - Jun 07, 2010 7:18:59 am PDT #4719 of 30001
"I keep to a strict diet of ill-advised enthusiasm and heartfelt regret." Leigh Bardugo
Children from lesbian families rated higher in social, academic and total competence. They also showed lower rates in social, rule-breaking, aggressive problem behavior
HAHAHAHAHA. Except for the rule breaking that my son demonstrates.
Noah and Grace are going to need therapy and soon. As will I, I think.
I'm trying to avoid work drama, but it's to little avail.
§ ita § - Jun 07, 2010 7:19:36 am PDT #4720 of 30001
Well not canonically, no, but this is transformative fiction.
do you know what John Rogers' Worst Experience was? Was it Eureka?
No, it wasn't.
tommyrot - Jun 07, 2010 7:24:24 am PDT #4721 of 30001
Sir, it's not an offence to let your cat eat your bacon. Okay? And we don't arrest cats, I'm very sorry.
Kat - Jun 07, 2010 7:32:45 am PDT #4722 of 30001
"I keep to a strict diet of ill-advised enthusiasm and heartfelt regret." Leigh Bardugo
In re-reading, I wasn't especially clear.
Obviously expressing my anger, frustration etc. is not especially useful to anyone except for me.
One of my students who is 8 months pregnant has an F and is mad that I won't accept a piece of work that might have made her pass. She wants to fight it, which is whatever. But she hsn't been here to do friday's work or today's work so even if I accept the 10 point assignment from before ("I did it, I just forgot to turn it in") she will still fail because she's missing Friday and Today.
ARGH.
Also, it's the 66 absences this year and the 16 absences from my class alone and the fact that she took the class in the fall and failed that are the issues.
Not one fucking 10 point assignment.
Rick - Jun 07, 2010 7:32:51 am PDT #4723 of 30001
These Aren’t The Droids You’re Looking For…
Speaking of Droids, the kids in my hometown have been at it again:
Jesse - Jun 07, 2010 7:37:14 am PDT #4724 of 30001
Sometimes I trip on how happy we could be.
Jesse, give me a day or two and it'll be on the way to you.
Woo hoo! Oh, but let me send you my work address to mail it to.
Amy - Jun 07, 2010 7:38:44 am PDT #4725 of 30001
Because books.
Oh, but let me send you my work address to mail it to.
Put in the Round Robin doc, maybe?
Aims - Jun 07, 2010 7:42:11 am PDT #4726 of 30001
Shit's all sorts of different now.
Hey!! My state rep in Lansing already answered my email from yesterday and I'm getting a Michigan flag for my Daisy troop!!