Heh, Calli!

Aims, from what little I know, I think it is The Done Thing to send kosher food for sitting shiva; I mean, unless a family is very Orthodox, I think it is okay to send food you have cooked in your unkosher kitchen. And no flowers.

If I were to send food to a family who was pretty kosher, I think I would send something like this: [link]

(Am I the only person that does that?!)

No, not anymore, you're not! MWAHAHAHA! (Calli beat me to it!)

I'm pretty sure that -t doesn't keep kosher, so home-cooked stuff is probably fine. I think she might not eat eggs, but I can't totally remember. If you're sending something from a restaurant or store anyway, though, then it's probably better to go with a kosher one -- even if the immediate family doesn't keep kosher, there will probably be at least some guests who do, and sending a platter of kosher cookies or sandwiches or something lets the family not have to worry about finding kosher food for those kosher guests.

FYI: I know that -t doesn't normally keep kosher, or at least hasn't mentioned it to me when I've asked about dietary stuff, but I do know she is allergic to corn in all its forms (including anything made with corn syrup), so I'd say cornbread is out, and veggie chili if it's made with corn.

I hope Beth or Matt will correct me if I am wrong, but based on the food there yesterday, and knowing that a lot of the food will be frozen and eaten after shiva, I'm not sure the food brought/sent needs to be kosher.

eta: but thanks Megan, I didn't know that about the corn, so it is definitely out.

She is allergic to almonds too, I believe.

veggie chili if it's made with corn

Oh, WHEW. I've been considering adding corn, but I didn't since I wasn't going to be eating it. And I made sure none of the ingredients had corn syrup anyway because...there's no reason it should be in there.

Oh, I`m so glad you guys are able to sit shiva. I`ve been thinking about her constantly and I`m so glad you are going. I feel represented in our board support.

I am glad, too. I will be sending a card.

ETA: That's good to know about the kosher stuff. I tend to err on the side of caution and formality when observing religious practices.

Oh, I`m so glad you guys are able to sit shiva. I`ve been thinking about her constantly and I`m so glad you are going. I feel represented in our board support.

Me too, if I haven't actually said that.

I'm grateful that Perkins, Matt, Beth and JZ (and any other localistas I missed) have been able to visit with -t.

We are having a relatively quiet day, because K has a fever which has made her listless. I took the dog for a hike and she is now flopped out underneath one of the AC vents.

A little peaceful passing ~ma in the direction of upstate NY would not be misplaced. Sox and my Uncle S. is home after more than two months in the hospital under Hospice care. Neither Sox nor I are particularly close to this uncle, so I don't think we need any consideration, but his family, and our fathers, do.