When I was younger, I got all my wedding presents there, but that's primarily because they had a crystal salad bowl called a Georgetown bowl that I gave to all my college friends with a Shakespeare quote about our salad days. The monogrammed playing cards are also fun because its two decks and you can do one for each half of the couple. They used to have a fabulous set of 4 crystal beer steins that were relatively cheap, but I'm not seeing those on their website.

DJ, those nails are adorable (and somewhere Pete is flinching).

My office has a dress code ... kind of. It's mostly ignored. I tend to try to dress professionally, although I've declared myself a casual Friday (it's pushing 100 out there! with humidity to match!). I'm wearing black cotton pants, a linen blouse (white with black and light beige blotches in kind of an abstract animal print). Not fancy, but comfy.

Hah, yeah, I've given the Georgetown bowl a time or seven.

Jars, just make sure you don't wear hose. You do not want sand all up in your toes without any way to release it.

I think it's one of my weird old-lady opinions, so I would never try to impose it on anyone, which is why I'm secretly (not-so-secretly) glad when someone else does.

Jesse is me. See also, no sandals at work, hose preferred, wearing a coat, etc. Also, in most offices I've been in, I would be cold in sleeveless outfits.

ETA: Jars, no hose and dressy flats would be perfectly acceptable for the wedding.

Hah, yeah, I've given the Georgetown bowl a time or seven.

Wait, did you also go there?

I'm doing a casual Friday thing with a long (lower calf) black skirt with a blueberry short sleeved cowl neck top. Should I be required to be anywhere with important people, I have an emergency cardigan I can throw on.

Jars, I'm sure that you will be fine. If nothing else, your charming accent will make up for any perceived faux pas.

As a side note, I think that formal beach weddings are ridiculous. The women can't wear heels, and it's difficult for the men to wear shoes that they won't get sand in. Plus, there's the inherent casualness of the beach!

Our office's dress code is that you have to be wearing clothes.

This is my office, for the most part. Clean clothes that cover all the basics. I haven't realy seen anyone push the too much skin line, even when it is hot as Hades here. I tend to wear jeans with heels most of the time. And some sort of blouse/top.

One coworker wears those 5 toed shoes.

Vibram FiveFingers? I want a pair of those, but I'm hesitant. How can they fit everyone's toes? I have long toes.

I'm of the opinion that people shouldn't expect everyone to know the traditional rules of their wedding. Someone in the wedding party should make sure everyone knows what's expected. I've come to dread going to weddings and showers and suchlike. I went to one traditional (I guess) New Jersey Italian fancy expensive wedding, where we were expected to bring the bride cash money, in plain white envelopes which she went around from table to table to collect. I had never heard of such a thing; if a friend of mine hadn't explained it to me, I would never have known what was up.

BTW, Jars, you do not have to wear a hat, although you certianly could if you wanted to.

Thanks for all the advice guys! I'm very thinking about the Tiffany thing for gifts. I just asked DH to ask his mum about a wedding registry and he started mumbling under his breath about his cousin 'mumblefuckingGucciorsomething', so I'm thinking she likes the finer things in life, perhaps.

Apparently the beach blessing is only like 30 minutes and then we all go into the local hotel/restaurant place for the cocktail reception. Presumably trailing sand in our wake on their lovely floors.