I think it's one of my weird old-lady opinions, so I would never try to impose it on anyone, which is why I'm secretly (not-so-secretly) glad when someone else does.

Jesse is me. See also, no sandals at work, hose preferred, wearing a coat, etc. Also, in most offices I've been in, I would be cold in sleeveless outfits.

ETA: Jars, no hose and dressy flats would be perfectly acceptable for the wedding.

Hah, yeah, I've given the Georgetown bowl a time or seven.

Wait, did you also go there?

I'm doing a casual Friday thing with a long (lower calf) black skirt with a blueberry short sleeved cowl neck top. Should I be required to be anywhere with important people, I have an emergency cardigan I can throw on.

Jars, I'm sure that you will be fine. If nothing else, your charming accent will make up for any perceived faux pas.

As a side note, I think that formal beach weddings are ridiculous. The women can't wear heels, and it's difficult for the men to wear shoes that they won't get sand in. Plus, there's the inherent casualness of the beach!

Our office's dress code is that you have to be wearing clothes.

This is my office, for the most part. Clean clothes that cover all the basics. I haven't realy seen anyone push the too much skin line, even when it is hot as Hades here. I tend to wear jeans with heels most of the time. And some sort of blouse/top.

One coworker wears those 5 toed shoes.

Vibram FiveFingers? I want a pair of those, but I'm hesitant. How can they fit everyone's toes? I have long toes.

I'm of the opinion that people shouldn't expect everyone to know the traditional rules of their wedding. Someone in the wedding party should make sure everyone knows what's expected. I've come to dread going to weddings and showers and suchlike. I went to one traditional (I guess) New Jersey Italian fancy expensive wedding, where we were expected to bring the bride cash money, in plain white envelopes which she went around from table to table to collect. I had never heard of such a thing; if a friend of mine hadn't explained it to me, I would never have known what was up.

BTW, Jars, you do not have to wear a hat, although you certianly could if you wanted to.

Thanks for all the advice guys! I'm very thinking about the Tiffany thing for gifts. I just asked DH to ask his mum about a wedding registry and he started mumbling under his breath about his cousin 'mumblefuckingGucciorsomething', so I'm thinking she likes the finer things in life, perhaps.

Apparently the beach blessing is only like 30 minutes and then we all go into the local hotel/restaurant place for the cocktail reception. Presumably trailing sand in our wake on their lovely floors.

MOJOCERATOPS

"I do not talk like that! The way I communicate is much different. I do not reiterate, repeat, reinstate the same thing over and over again. I am clear, concise, to the point!"

Vibram FiveFingers? I want a pair of those, but I'm hesitant. How can they fit everyone's toes? I have long toes.

He swears by them. They were odd looking to me at first, but now I'm used to them. He sits in the cube in front of mine, and that's how I usually know if he's here. I look under my desk, and if I see blue feet, I know S is on duty.

Wait, did you also go there?

No, but it's a good midpoint gift especially for people you don't know well in terms of style/design.