Jesse, don't make me get on twitter to ask Owen to tell you to go to sleep.

Owen is our oh-so-adorable boogyman. I love it!

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Steph, have you ever met anyone and found them initially fascinating?

Steph, have you ever met anyone and found them initially fascinating?

Yes, but what I mean about not "clicking" is that *I* found then fascinating, but there wasn't a click *with me.* I guess the way I'm thinking of it is that the "click" happens *between* the two people, that it's more than just one person thinking the other is fascinating/hot/charming/whatever. And I never have the initial click *between* myself and someone else. It's like I'm a smooth Lego that can't fit with another Lego.

I guess for it to be a proper click both people have to do it. And I've definitely had that. But it's not how I wander about interacting with new people, or anything...it never occurs to anyone to date me, after all, not people I can get through an entire conversation with without being bored.

And I don't remember what I could talk or I could bang feels like. Usually one of those urges subsumes the other.

There is a guy I have been e-mailing with because we seem to have some things in common and it could be worth learning more. But his last message slammed Buffy and included a comment about how he isn't really into any professional sports. Even so, he would be willing to go to a Rockies game with me if I wished.

I'm not expecting to find someone who had exact likes/dislikes. There is always room to learn something new or get a new perspective. Unfortunately, right now, he has two strikes. One more and he is OUT.

This trying to date thing is HARD. I want a Yenta to find my match. Or some well meaning friends. Best yet, would be a 40-ish, single guy joins the dojo and discovers my wonderfulness.

One more and he is OUT.

Don't do that! Be more curious. You don't have to have all your interests aligned. In fact, it's often more interesting to date somebody who has a different set of references and interests.

There's a reason there's a curse that says "May you live in interesting times."

One of the magic things about a quick fascination is how often it has nothing to do with anything. The longer a list of similarities I've ever been presented with anyone, the worse it got. Once it got past Buffy and computers and...whatever, the hookup just got awkward. Those are the kinda people you gotta meet, not be set up with, because someone you know who doesn't dig those things about you heard about someone else.

I think you can meet someone and really spark conversationally. But that doesn't mean they're relationship material. This happened to me the other day with a married guy.

Anyhoo, Community tonight was the funniest half hour of tv all season. OMG, people, watch that shit on Hulu. It's amazing.