Steph, have you ever met anyone and found them initially fascinating?

Yes, but what I mean about not "clicking" is that *I* found then fascinating, but there wasn't a click *with me.* I guess the way I'm thinking of it is that the "click" happens *between* the two people, that it's more than just one person thinking the other is fascinating/hot/charming/whatever. And I never have the initial click *between* myself and someone else. It's like I'm a smooth Lego that can't fit with another Lego.

I guess for it to be a proper click both people have to do it. And I've definitely had that. But it's not how I wander about interacting with new people, or anything...it never occurs to anyone to date me, after all, not people I can get through an entire conversation with without being bored.

And I don't remember what I could talk or I could bang feels like. Usually one of those urges subsumes the other.

There is a guy I have been e-mailing with because we seem to have some things in common and it could be worth learning more. But his last message slammed Buffy and included a comment about how he isn't really into any professional sports. Even so, he would be willing to go to a Rockies game with me if I wished.

I'm not expecting to find someone who had exact likes/dislikes. There is always room to learn something new or get a new perspective. Unfortunately, right now, he has two strikes. One more and he is OUT.

This trying to date thing is HARD. I want a Yenta to find my match. Or some well meaning friends. Best yet, would be a 40-ish, single guy joins the dojo and discovers my wonderfulness.

One more and he is OUT.

Don't do that! Be more curious. You don't have to have all your interests aligned. In fact, it's often more interesting to date somebody who has a different set of references and interests.

There's a reason there's a curse that says "May you live in interesting times."

One of the magic things about a quick fascination is how often it has nothing to do with anything. The longer a list of similarities I've ever been presented with anyone, the worse it got. Once it got past Buffy and computers and...whatever, the hookup just got awkward. Those are the kinda people you gotta meet, not be set up with, because someone you know who doesn't dig those things about you heard about someone else.

I think you can meet someone and really spark conversationally. But that doesn't mean they're relationship material. This happened to me the other day with a married guy.

Anyhoo, Community tonight was the funniest half hour of tv all season. OMG, people, watch that shit on Hulu. It's amazing.

Skipping (still? Sigh) because, according to the Buffista Calendar, today is Glamcookie's birthday.

Happy birthday, GC! With lots of wishes for a great day and a wonderful year!

Yeah, I`ve definitely had the conversational click. I have it with my new roomie which is why I`m just now coming to bed after talking for two hours after I meant to be asleep and despite the fact that he`s sick and we both have work to do in the morning. And we have wildly disparate views but the same personality type, thus the good talk. But the conversational click is (at least theoretically) non-sexual. Or at least it doesn`t have to be, although it can enhance sexual interest I think.
 
And not to be all BMECT about it, but the SO & I had the relationship click, met eyes across a crowded room and knew thing. So I definitely think it happens that way too. Interests were secondary. Well, music, that mattered. But there`s a reason why I`m a hockey fan today and it`s not because of my Hawaiian ethnic heritage, I tell you what.

I'm massively awkward upon first (and second, and third) meetings. A lot of the time I feel like I'm imitating proper human behavior rather than actually doing what I'm doing because it feels right to me.

Oh, god. That describes me to a T. The idea of having 'click' on a first meeting with someone causes so much anxiety it's not even funny.