Ooh--I should be clear--gay male club without a guy once. Never been to a lesbian nightclub without a lesbian.
In university we felt pretty enfranchised to wander the gay male world as we wished, like just the knowledge that 1/2 our male friends were gay would come with us like a visible marker. Pretty arrogant. Then again, the gay environment in Montreal was quite blended, so many bars were male/female gay. Not sure how straight we looked.
eta: reading rafmun now. Later I will torture myself with early BBaBB. I don't know why.
I have not been to a gay or lesbian bar in many many years. It feels weird, like I'm not getting my minimum RDA of gay people in my life or something....
This reminds me of the conversation I have every time someone asks if The Grapevine is a gay bar. I say "Yes. It's also a lesbian bar, a straight bar, a working class bar, a professionals' bar, a black club, a sports bar and a dive bar."
OTOH, The Manhole? Just a gay bar.
Should I permit myself to get raised hopes about this??
Too late. They just changed the headline.
My weirdest gay club experience is that when I lived in south west Virginia in the late eighties there was only one gay club and it would have different nights for different groups. Monday would be older dudes, tuesday would be drag, wednesday would be lesbians, etc.
People would get REALLY dicky if the "wrong" group was drawing attention on a given night. Like, bitching, heckling, complaining-to-the-powers-that-be dicky. I was pretty amazed. My little 19 year old brain was like, "So,
this
is self-loathing."
It was the only gay club for MILES. People were regularly given bullshit traffic tickets when leaving the parking lot. There weren't police raids, but there was what seemed a continual awareness that they'd better be quiet as hell and never get caught screwing on the premises or they'd lose their liquor license. Patrons were definately not safe at other clubs in the area. In light of all of this I found the infighting particularly heartbreaking. You can't even have
each other
? You're going to say sexist and homophobic things to
each other
?
I have been to a lesbian nightclub with ita, in fact!
meara, we went to a lesbian bar (Bullfishes) when you were in Cincy, right? Although it was a weeknight and therefore sadly fairly empty.
I just got a $50.00 American Express gift card as a thank you from my managers. Wow, I'm kinda stunned.
It feels weird, like I'm not getting my minimum RDA of gay people in my life or something....
Hell, that's how *I* feel.
