D didn't mention it last night, but I ended up taking a long nap (I think I'm fighting off a wee cold) so that's not surprising. I'm fairly confident that he will be rolling his eyes.

I need to finish updating my music stuff and finish this cup of coffee so I can get to office cleaning. And the bathroom, and some laundry. Yay, laundry. My fave.

Her request is a little odd, but while the rules and roles are still fairly mutable it doesn't hurt to be more expansive than necessary. Unless you think that would create a bad precedent, or set bad boundaries or false expectations.

Hmm. This, I think. She's used to being the one for whom the compromises are made -- some fairly serious ones, like leaving the house abruptly and expecting D to break his lease and take it over when she moved to MN, moving twice to farther and farther locations, enrolling M. in a swank private school neither she nor D can afford -- these are patterns that have been allowed by D. It's not all her fault, of that I am perfectly aware. there are two people in amrelationship, and while these are his patterns to break or to set new boundaries for her, it's my responsibility to myself and to D. as a partner to set boundaries as far as what I am comfortable with early in the game. I will have to make compromises too -- after all, with all these variables, I'm going to have to go a little farther sometimes, but compromise is NOT compliance all the time with another person's desires.

I suppose I'm viewing it as classroom management, which may seem weird, but it's actually pretty logical. If you set your boundaries as the term begins, it's a lot easier for everyone to deal with clearly delineated expectations throughout, than if you're all sweet and easy at first (so that your student will like you) and THEN you break out some boundaries. I'm looking for respect and a working relationship, not friendship.

C'mon, girl! What else have you got to do March 13th - 20th? And you don't have to volunteer the whole week, as many or as few days as you like. (event is from 3/9 - 3/20, the dates I give are when I will be there)

Yeah! No wait. I can't get to NOLA in a car in 45 minutes like I can Tijuana and Tecate, probably, huh? And my Mom has the month bookended with cataract surgeries. I guess you'll just have to drink something fruity where you can't taste the alcohol for me, darnit. Seriously, hope you guys have an amazing experience.

I'll be there the 14-18, Epic!

I guess you'll just have to drink something fruity where you can't taste the alcohol for me, darnit.

Nora, that's on you. I can't mix fruit and alcohol, alas. But I'll raise a bourbon drink for you!

I will have ONE Hurricane from Lafitte's Blacksmith shop, because in NOLA, I am a Sazerac Girl in a Sazerac World.

Wait, though, do Pimm's Cups count?

It's SO AWESOME that you guys are doing this!

Oh, thanks, Scrappy. I feel weird accepting accolades of any kind because I get so much out of it myself, you know? And I'm just down there for a week, and the residents of the Lower Ninth ward live their lives, day in and out.

But it means a lot to me that people appreciate what Historic Green is trying to do. I really like that it's supporting a neighborhood initiative and working through local nonprofits, and not so much "the white peoples are here to saaaaave yoooou... and now we're leaving."

{{{Laura and Bobby and Family }}}}

{{{lisah and Bob}}}

Teppy, I hope the transition goes smoothly. Celexa is wonder drug for me, and I can't imagine going off of it.

smonster, nora, one of you needs to have some sort of drink involving absinthe or chartreuse for me while you're in NOLA, okay? Please?

ION, I hate hate hate outlining TOCs. HATE. I'm trying to remind myself that the TOC is a snapshot, and it doesn't have to be omg perfect.