not being "honey" is a good start for me

Don't. Get. Me. Started.

I wish some NYT columnists would learn, everyone is not you

A lesson I want that Israeli media will learn, as well.

Writing papers in English takes. so. much. freaking. time. Thank God that thanks to you guys, I'm typing fast. But 1500 words never seemed more far away than now...

So the correct pronunciation doesn't really have the first "l" sound in it, and where the "z" is you make something like a "y" sound only a bit farther back in your throat. Also the first "a" sound in the name isn't the flat sounding "a" that is expected, but a bit more like an elongated "ai" diphthong.

I had no idea I'd been pronouncing your name wrong all this time! (OTOH, I'm also not sure I've ever actually said your last name out loud. Huh.)

I was wrong on the internets in my head!

Migraine. Have to be at work. Kill me now.

Okay, first, Steph, your name has two syllables: Steffle. It`s like amych/amyth in that it has by now become irreversible in my subvocal reading.

A meatspace friend of mine has started calling me Steffle. He's a computer sooper genius (his most recent job was trying to break IBM's Web site -- seriously), and I've started to wonder if he's found me on LJ or here (or both), because there's no other place where I go by Steph L. On facebook (where I have him friended), it's my full multisyllabic name, and in e-mails it's just Steph (or, sometimes, S.).

I've been trying to figure out if he's trying to tell me that he's found me online (here or in LJ) by calling me Steffle. Possibly I'm paranoid. Or -- STOP LURKING, DUDE. YOU KNOW WHO YOU ARE.

I have the same problem, only inverted. I introduce myself as Steph -- simple, one syllable -- and invariably the person will reply, "StephANIE?"

I bet I would do that. Mostly because I would want to spell your name out in my head in some weird way as if asking the longer name would give me a clue. Ridic.

It might be the migraine making my brain not work well, so I have to ask -- give you a clue as to what?

I'm seeing a discordance between these two statements.

So did she. Really? Not wanting to do something means I'm not polite? I can't be polite unless I'm "ma'am"ing and "sir"ing everyone? No one but my grandmother and my headmaster ever thought I was impolite.

On this morning's edition of Wake Up and Procrastinate with Stephen Fry, Alan Davies is in the big chair on QI [link]

I bet I would do that. Mostly because I would want to spell your name out in my head in some weird way as if asking the longer name would give me a clue. Ridic.

It might be the migraine making my brain not work well, so I have to ask -- give you a clue as to what?

I think she means whether or not you spell it Stephanie, or Stefanie, or Stefany, or Stephany, etc. Her point being that you saying your full name out loud wouldn't help determine the spelling in this instance.

I could be wrong.

:: wink wink :: Take a look at my profile. (maybe tell me what's wrong with it)

How do I find you? Email, RL name? I'm new to OKC.

Fantastic! (I met The Girl on OutEverywhere. Don't tell anyone.)

Doesn't everyone meet everyone online these days?

how polite are them, and how much are they just trying to hide.

Being polite != hiding something any more than being rude = honesty.

It took me a lot of political phone banks and several Derek Strange novels to get that black people, ime, prefer Mr. or Mrs from strangers.

My friend Suz, who was teaching black kids in inner city DC, learned that dressing down as a teacher - trying to be more approachable from her perspective - was perceived as a slight. She didn't get it until one of the kids asked her why she didn't respect them. Why did she wear such casual clothes? Then she noticed that all the black teachers dressed much more formally (all the men wore ties and jackets), and she changed her wardrobe.

Doesn't everyone meet everyone online these days?

I'm so old-fashioned. I met The Boy in person, when he offered to tie me up.