Like, socially? I'm not sure I would know what other name to use. Maybe I'm not understanding.
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Daisy Jane - Feb 02, 2010 2:41:07 pm PST #8818 of 30000
"This bar smells like kerosene and stripper tears."
§ ita § - Feb 02, 2010 2:43:02 pm PST #8819 of 30000
Well not canonically, no, but this is transformative fiction.
I get blank looks when I tell people in stores my last name when they were expecting a first, but really. Let's not get into it. That could be a first name.
And then I get curiosity that I don't like when I omit my last name socially. I don't get why people need both of them!
Daisy Jane - Feb 02, 2010 2:43:32 pm PST #8820 of 30000
"This bar smells like kerosene and stripper tears."
I think it's more a function of them not understanding what our team does, and I think it's better for my boss to 'splain what we 'don't' do than it is for me.
Daisy Jane - Feb 02, 2010 2:45:15 pm PST #8821 of 30000
"This bar smells like kerosene and stripper tears."
I know exactly why people need my last name socially. There are like 5 or 6 of us. It can get confusing, or lead to nicknames or signifiers that can sometimes be angry-making.
Hil R. - Feb 02, 2010 2:46:47 pm PST #8822 of 30000
Sometimes I think I might just move up to Vermont, open a bookstore or a vegan restaurant. Adam Schlesinger, z''l
I generally don't mind when someone uses my first name, since odds are they'd pronounce my last name wrong anyway.
Polter-Cow - Feb 02, 2010 2:50:05 pm PST #8823 of 30000
What else besides ramen can you scoop? YOU CAN SCOOP THIS WORLD FROM DARKNESS!
I particularly feel this with regard to first names. I hate it when people I don't know use my first name.
Yeah, I feel kind of uncomfortable if someone I'm not familiar with addresses me by name in a familiar manner.
Jessica - Feb 02, 2010 2:54:51 pm PST #8824 of 30000
And then Ortus came and said "It's Ortin' time" and they all Orted off into the sunset
Someone told me once that the supermarket clerks reading your name off the card is a lazy way to check for identity theft. (If you respond to the name on the card, you probably didn't steal it.)
But if they're not going to pronounce the name correctly, it doesn't seem like a terribly effective method.
Daisy Jane - Feb 02, 2010 3:00:22 pm PST #8825 of 30000
"This bar smells like kerosene and stripper tears."
Yeah, I feel kind of uncomfortable if someone I'm not familiar with addresses me by name in a familiar manner.
So if it's someone you just met, what should they call you when addressing you?
Connie Neil - Feb 02, 2010 3:10:31 pm PST #8826 of 30000
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So if it's someone you just met, what should they call you when addressing you?
Somewhere, Miss Manners has felt a pang.
Traditionally, they should call you ma'am/sir if it's a passing interaction, otherwise they'd have been introduced to you and be calling you Mrs./Miss/Ms./Mr./Sir/Lady etc. Whomever.
My work situation has enforced my laziness re: names, because I've never really had a job where I had to work directly with other people, it's been isolated computer production with intermittent feedback meetings, or support things where I'm talking to people on a phone and I've got their name in front of me on the screen. And it's taken me years to get comfortable saying "OK, SoandSo, how can I help you today?" and "Thanks for calling, SoandSo."
Daisy Jane - Feb 02, 2010 3:12:27 pm PST #8827 of 30000
"This bar smells like kerosene and stripper tears."
Traditionally, they should call you ma'am/sir if it's a passing interaction, otherwise they'd have been introduced to you and be calling you Mrs./Miss/Ms./Mr./Sir/Lady etc. Whomever.
Really? Socially?