The part about female relationships and being threatening if you don't particularly feel the need to have people like you is something I need to print out and nail above the mirror.

wrod. When I hate it the most is when I don't *even like* the other person, yet I don't want her/him to think I'm a jerk. Who cares? They're a jerk. Right?

But, as a lady who continually downplays herself, has panic attacks when engaging in even the most mundane and obligatory forms of self-promotion, and enthusiastically shoots herself in the foot career-wise on a more or less constant basis, I… well, I can’t say he’s not on to something, basically.

Sadly, this is me. Coincidentally, I was having a conversation earlier today about the 2008 election, and my friend and I were agreeing that we always ignore talk about women politicos being "bitches" or "mean spirited," because we assume that means they were doing what men do to succeed in politics.

I think it came up for me in friendships with women (Well, for the most part. I have had guys behave like this, but was pretty quick to identify it as abusive, or at the very least toxic.) who were "nice." Like the Complisult? Insulpliment? Whichever. Something was off, but I couldn't put my finger on what it was.

I still have trouble dealing with it because to the outside it looks like you are just being a bitch, but the alternative-being walked all over until you drive yourself insane-doesn't seem like the better option.

I have a working dishwasher!

OK, probably not that exciting to anybody but me. But I hate having to stand at the sink to wash dishes.

being threatening if you don't particularly feel the need to have people like you

It's a blessing and a curse. It helps you get shit done, but people think that you're arrogant. Which bothers me, but not enough for me to change the way I am.

I've always wondered why some women have called me intimidating or acted like I frightened them. I try not to be overtly threatening to anyone--unless I want to--but there are women who act like they expect me to eat their children and barbecue the dog.

I need to step away from Science Based Medcine blog for awhile, I love it but I keep getting sucked into the threads with the crazy.

I've had women ask me why I hated them. People I really hadn't spoken to much or felt one way or the other about.

Never been told I was intimidating or frightening, just that they thought I didn't like them.

Did Amy Tuteur post something new, Askye? She always seems to attract the most venom.

I'm babysitting for a three month-old who is asleep on the futon next to me. Too adorable for words.