Yeah. The neediness (emotional, I mean) and inappropriate sharing started pretty much right away, right? It definitely sets off alarms for me, not necessarily in a danger sense, but I suspect shaking free of this entanglement may get tricky. I'd be extremely boundary conscious.

I'm with brenda and Pix.

I am thinking they aren't coming tonight. He didn't call back and I explained that he needed to call before 8 because we all go to bed early. I wouldn't have any trouble telling them no wrt to money. With us buying the house this month, we have none anyway.

According to her, she saw us at the church block party and thought we looked like a nice family. On Friday, she mentioned this again telling me "and your daughter looked so cute in her green crocs.". See that seems creepy to me that she remembers my daughter's shoes.

Okay, I need tothink about something else... Pretty shoes, anyone? Pretty cabana boys? Pretty baseball players? Or cats?

Eta: Brenda, yes. Assuming it's true, I know way to much about her personal life. I don't knowany woman with fertility struggles who go into depth in a first conversation.

eta: Basically they sound like a lot of people in Cash's extended family. She could give better advice at how to deal with the chronically You Owe Me Every Break (or, Save Me From Our Poor Choices) people

Ayup. The difference is that it's a lot harder to say no to family. I think I would trust your instincts, Stephanie. People who come on to near-strangers asking for some serious help (or dropping vague "we could really use some money" hints") should probably be avoided. Like David said, they might not have evil intentions but they could very well just be manipulative-user types.

I'm not as familiar with military culture--is this a couple you met from the base? I can imagine folks would be a little more willing to reach out if they felt part of a military family than total strangers.

If it were me, I wouldn't invite a total stranger (pregnant woman or not) to stay in my home with my kids. I'd offer to help out to some extent--rides, or something like that. But until you know them better, it strikes me as odd that someone would be expecting that kind of thing from strangers.

We met them at church. We go to this Wednesday night dinner before Ellie's choir and they were there. The thing about tonight was that she was supposedlyin the hospital with preterm labor and had a seizure. Her boyfriend works at night and according to him, they don't know anyone else. So while I would never invite her over, he framed his request as her spending the night alone and possibly seizing again v. sleeping here. It's so overreaching but I just couldn't see myself saying no, if it were true. But now they have our address, although we are in the phonebook.

You know, if we had decent healthcare this probably would not have happened. I can't believe, if it's true, that the hospital sent home a woman with preterm labor and seizures.

You know, if they're members of the church, I would suggest talking to someone there. My sister's community church is VERY good about providing assistance to members. You could always call the church and ask their office or outreach service to call the couple and offer assistance.

It would also be a good way of "vetting" the people, per se or finding out if they're on the up and up.

the brief stop was like a fun little holiday into a land of awesome toys and graphic novels and craziness (one wall is crooked and the kitchen looks like an abandoned Escher sketch! there's a real honest-to-God attic with a ladder that pulls down from the ceiling, and musty-smelling warm air with dust motes dancing in the light from the single window, and bare roof beams, and mysterious boxes!). She was quite thoroughly charmed and charming.

Wow, my apartment has never seemed so interesting. Everybody come visit!

Anyhow, the car is now clean and Uncle Neil can ride around in it anytime he wants.

Yay!

I can't believe, if it's true, that the hospital sent home a woman with preterm labor and seizures.

At the least, I would think they'd ask if her she had someone who could look after her.

I'm sorry Stephanie. It sounds like a frustrating situation.

I am an idiot. Just noticed a spelling mistake on my teaching statement, which I already sent out to quite a few schools. (Luckily, most of them are electronic applications, and I can replace it with no problem. The paper ones, I'll just figure there's nothing I can do -- sending a new copy to fix a spelling error seems sillier than just having the error in the first place.)

Hil, all those deeply-accented foreign-born math professors may be paying off for you riiiiiight NOW.