Though it does seem that both you and JZ have managed to be friends with EM, not just put anger aside but actually forgiven and become friends. I'm sure it took a lot of work, but it is something not everyone could have done regardless of how hard they worked. It says something about both you and JZ as people.

Not to claim credit for us, but to say that it requires putting aside your ego and loving your child more than your righteous anger.

The fact that so many prefer to put the anger first says something about those who put their child(ren) first.

The fact that so many prefer to put the anger first says something about those who put their child(ren) first.

So much this.

One of my clients has chosen to deal with custody issues as a 'business-like teamwork' situation. The child is all that matters. This seems infinitely more practical and sustainable than putting the anger first.

Nobody thinks they're putting anger first. If you presented the choice to them like that they'd all deny it. But it's hard to let go of the feeling of being wronged.

As the wise amych once taught me, any time you act (react?) out of a wounded sense of ego it's likely the wrong impulse. The trick is to catch yourself in that moment. Not easy in the flush of feeling.

ION, Big Ass Thunder Storm in SF. Which is unusual here.

Pouring here.

and I just found out one of my 16 yr old library volunteers ( girl) disappeared last night

Oh, gosh, beth, how scary. Safety~ma for her.

Indeed. I hope she's just out being 16-years-old, and not... other.

Not other~Ma, too.

Goodness, beth, I hope she's ok.

I just had 9 hours of sleep in my own bed, after several nights trying to sleep on a blow-up mattress in my niece's room. She's always wonderfully gracious about sharing her space, but it's great to be back to my pillow-top queen-size mattress, with bonus knee-warming cat.

beth, how awful! I hope she's ok.

Beth, all kinds of ~ma going out to her. I hope she's safe.

Jilli playing with her mini-me doll is awesome. Cash getting excited over a cami is equally as awesome. Both are very smile inducing.

Ashton cat has been sleeping in our bedroom since he got sick but I think DH is over it now. Ash *is* doing much better... Enough to return to his habit of being very chatty if we're asleep and he wants attention or food or whatever. I don't mind it that much because when I had my place my furry roomies were almost always allowed in my room, but Mike has always had a closed-off bedroom policy with his cats. Which I understand, for the most part, so I let his ruling stand, but I will miss falling asleep to the sound of a purring kitty.