Cashmere, that is such a difficult situation for you to be in. Isn't spotting in early pregnancy not uncommon and not always a sign of miscarriage? I've never been pregnant, so I could be totally wrong.
Maybe I've always been here.
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sj - Dec 12, 2009 9:28:36 am PST #3465 of 30000
"There are few hours in life more agreeable than the hour dedicated to the ceremony known as afternoon tea."
Jessica - Dec 12, 2009 9:32:23 am PST #3466 of 30000
And then Ortus came and said "It's Ortin' time" and they all Orted off into the sunset
I listen and try to be encouraging and positive but if she's going to call me every time she goes to the bathroom, I'm going to lose it.
Oh man, how awful. I can understand her panic, but she's going to make herself sick if she keeps it up. Is there any way you can tell her gently that keeping calm is the best thing she can do for the baby right now? Maybe encourage her to distract herself with a DVD or a nice warm bath?
Cashmere - Dec 12, 2009 9:32:53 am PST #3467 of 30000
Now tagless for your comfort.
Spotting's pretty common. I spotted with Olivia. I keep telling her that. But every twinge to her is a cramp indicating miscarriage. I think she just gets so stressed about it that she can't think of anything positive. I want it to happen for her so much but I want her to enjoy the process and not stress about every potential problem.
Cashmere - Dec 12, 2009 9:35:29 am PST #3468 of 30000
Now tagless for your comfort.
Is there any way you can tell her gently that keeping calm is the best thing she can do for the baby right now? Maybe encourage her to distract herself with a DVD or a nice warm bath?
I'm trying to keep her calm. She's ok when she's busy. She's an extreme Type A (she's a corporate attorney) so getting her to relax and be calm is not an easy task. I'm hoping that it's just her hormones shooting up that is making her act this way.
And she's calling again.
WindSparrow - Dec 12, 2009 9:54:09 am PST #3469 of 30000
Love is stronger than death and harder than sorrow. Those who practice it are fierce like the light of stars traveling eons to pierce the night.
Oh, Cash, that's so hard. Much peace~ma to you and calm~ma to her. And extra heaps of grow-strong-and-healthy~ma to the little one.
Jessica - Dec 12, 2009 10:00:23 am PST #3470 of 30000
And then Ortus came and said "It's Ortin' time" and they all Orted off into the sunset
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omnis_audis - Dec 12, 2009 10:09:18 am PST #3471 of 30000
omnis, pursue. That's an order from a shy woman who can use M-16. - Shir
Cash, no clue what to say. Just that the mind has wonderful healing powers, and that positive thoughts can go a long way.
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javachik - Dec 12, 2009 10:12:16 am PST #3472 of 30000
Our wings are not tired.
Omnis, break out your "Eagles (and anyone playing against Dallas) Fan" sweatshirt. You know you have one!!
Cashmere, I am sorry about your sister and I truly hope this isn't a miscarriage.
-t - Dec 12, 2009 10:12:30 am PST #3473 of 30000
I am a woman of various inclinations and only some of the time are they to burn everything down in frustration
{{Cash and sister}} It's good of you to listen to her even while she is driving you both crazy. I hope this goes better for her than she fears.
Stephanie - Dec 12, 2009 10:30:48 am PST #3474 of 30000
Trust my rage
Cash, as someone who has been through the miscarriage thing a few times, I'm not sure there is anything you can say/do. Other than listen, I suppose, which is not easy. When I was waiting to know what was happening with my first miscarriage, I was completely consumed by it and wanting to know what was happening. I eventually found a place on the babycenter pregnancy loss boards, which is actually what brought me online. I don't know how much time she spends online but I really found my group to be hugely helpful, plus they were always willing to listen when other people were just tired of hearing me go on and on about it.
Having said that, yes, sometimes there is lots of spotting in pregnancies that end with healthy babies. I think a faint HPT is likely not a good sign, but there's no way to know until you do.
Wow - typing all that took me way back. I am so glad I have the two wonderful children I have now.