Holy crap, PC. No wonder he's supportive about the grief you get from them.

I hope it works out, for both of you (and the white she-devil).

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Good luck to you and your brother, P-C.

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Yipes! I hope the fallout isn't too bad, P-C.

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<unhelpful>Dude, this is awesome. Now you can marry a nice Gujarati girl that you meet yourself and you will not be nearly as bad as your brother!</unhelpful> In all seriousness, I wish your family luck in going through all this.
 
Mine went through the Japanese equivalent, but luckily for me it happened in my generation but I am the youngest of all my cousins. So by the time I was dating my first boyfriend (black) or my long distance boyfriend (Hispanic) or my husband to be (Caucasian) it was no big deal. I always told my parents I would be happy to date a nice Japanese boy, only I`d never met one that wasn`t my cousin and this was not my fault.

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Yikes, P-C.

Re: the kid thing.

This is actually one of the many parts of what I've been struggling so hard with over the last year.

I have recently begun to feel like my window for ever having any kind of a family has closed. I'm glad I don't have kids now, because I've never gotten my shit together quite enough - I wouldn't have been able to handle it before now.

But to some degree, I wanted the possibility there.

And frankly, it's been very very difficult to not feel like my window of finding any kind of long term relationship has closed as well.

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I think the lesson is don't hide it . it will be a mess no matter what, so just do it.

And if my boyfriend wasn't willing to admit I was his girlfriend to his parents ( that he was in contact with ) , I wouldn't be living with him. Man up, don't make me live in the middle of the explosion.

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Good luck, P-C. Maybe once it's all out in the open and the world doesn't end, your parents will be a little less rigid. Could happen.

That used furniture store sounds like kind of a nifty idea, Hil. Hooray rocking chair!

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My brother joked that they're pretty much never going to believe any of us ever again.

Nah, just tell them the brutal truth. Then say "what? Would you rather I hide the truth and LIE to you for all this time? You didn't take that well with [brother]." either way, good luck to you and him! I wonder what your sister thinks?

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And frankly, it's been very very difficult to not feel like my window of finding any kind of long term relationship has closed as well.

Sean, I feel like this sometimes as well. I hope we are both wrong.

P.-C., man. I wish good luck and strength and a hardy sense of humor to all your mother's children and all their present and future significant others. Mother of P.-C., for future reference, if you're not totally prepared to know what's in the closet, don't open the door!

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Seriously, beth! Exactly!

I would Never say "there's a pot for every lid" because I think that's bullshit but, Sean, take it from me, you never know what's going to happen. I certainly felt the way you did overthe years and, then, suddenly, everything changed.

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