Yipes! I hope the fallout isn't too bad, P-C.
Tell me more good stuff about me.
Kaylee ,'The Message'
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Calli - Aug 11, 2010 3:55:28 pm PDT #28258 of 30000
I must obey the inscrutable exhortations of my soul—Calvin and Hobbs
Liese S. - Aug 11, 2010 3:56:33 pm PDT #28259 of 30000
"Faded like the lilac, he thought."
<unhelpful>Dude, this is awesome. Now you can marry a nice Gujarati girl that you meet yourself and you will not be nearly as bad as your brother!</unhelpful> In all seriousness, I wish your family luck in going through all this.
Mine went through the Japanese equivalent, but luckily for me it happened in my generation but I am the youngest of all my cousins. So by the time I was dating my first boyfriend (black) or my long distance boyfriend (Hispanic) or my husband to be (Caucasian) it was no big deal. I always told my parents I would be happy to date a nice Japanese boy, only I`d never met one that wasn`t my cousin and this was not my fault.
Sean K - Aug 11, 2010 3:59:05 pm PDT #28260 of 30000
You can't leave me to my own devices; my devices are Nap and Eat. -Zenkitty
Yikes, P-C.
Re: the kid thing.
This is actually one of the many parts of what I've been struggling so hard with over the last year.
I have recently begun to feel like my window for ever having any kind of a family has closed. I'm glad I don't have kids now, because I've never gotten my shit together quite enough - I wouldn't have been able to handle it before now.
But to some degree, I wanted the possibility there.
And frankly, it's been very very difficult to not feel like my window of finding any kind of long term relationship has closed as well.
beth b - Aug 11, 2010 4:03:56 pm PDT #28261 of 30000
oh joy! Oh Rapture ! I have a brain!
I think the lesson is don't hide it . it will be a mess no matter what, so just do it.
And if my boyfriend wasn't willing to admit I was his girlfriend to his parents ( that he was in contact with ) , I wouldn't be living with him. Man up, don't make me live in the middle of the explosion.
-t - Aug 11, 2010 4:10:15 pm PDT #28262 of 30000
I am a woman of various inclinations and only some of the time are they to burn everything down in frustration
Good luck, P-C. Maybe once it's all out in the open and the world doesn't end, your parents will be a little less rigid. Could happen.
That used furniture store sounds like kind of a nifty idea, Hil. Hooray rocking chair!
omnis_audis - Aug 11, 2010 4:15:43 pm PDT #28263 of 30000
omnis, pursue. That's an order from a shy woman who can use M-16. - Shir
My brother joked that they're pretty much never going to believe any of us ever again.Nah, just tell them the brutal truth. Then say "what? Would you rather I hide the truth and LIE to you for all this time? You didn't take that well with [brother]." either way, good luck to you and him! I wonder what your sister thinks?
Zenkitty - Aug 11, 2010 4:15:59 pm PDT #28264 of 30000
Every now and then, I think I might actually be a little odd.
And frankly, it's been very very difficult to not feel like my window of finding any kind of long term relationship has closed as well.
Sean, I feel like this sometimes as well. I hope we are both wrong.
P.-C., man. I wish good luck and strength and a hardy sense of humor to all your mother's children and all their present and future significant others. Mother of P.-C., for future reference, if you're not totally prepared to know what's in the closet, don't open the door!
lisah - Aug 11, 2010 4:20:08 pm PDT #28265 of 30000
Punishingly Intricate
Seriously, beth! Exactly!
I would Never say "there's a pot for every lid" because I think that's bullshit but, Sean, take it from me, you never know what's going to happen. I certainly felt the way you did overthe years and, then, suddenly, everything changed.
-t - Aug 11, 2010 4:22:00 pm PDT #28266 of 30000
I am a woman of various inclinations and only some of the time are they to burn everything down in frustration
Eh, my grandmother got married in her 60s. And my MiL met the guy she's now living with when she was in her 60s. Neither Sean nor Zenkitty have expired in terms of LTR potential.
beth b - Aug 11, 2010 4:27:17 pm PDT #28267 of 30000
oh joy! Oh Rapture ! I have a brain!
-t, that is what i was comming back to say . I've been to a number of weddings of people in thier 60s recently. and I know a number of people closer to my age ( 47) that have found people that love them partly because of their quirks. And I know of one childless couple that 'adopted' a whole family. I think there is a lot of room for life to surprise you in some unexpected ways , Sean and Zenkitty.