Mal: Zoe, why do I have a wife? Jayne: You got a wife? All I got is that dumbass stick sounds like its raining. How come you got a wife?

'Our Mrs. Reynolds'


Spike's Bitches 45: That sure as hell wasn't in the brochure.  

[NAFDA] Spike-centric discussion. Lusty, lewd (only occasionally crude), risqué (and frisqué), bawdy (Oh, lawdy!), flirty ('cuz we're purty), raunchy talk inside. Caveat lector.


Trudy Booth - Aug 11, 2010 7:43:48 am PDT #28174 of 30000
Greece's financial crisis threatens to take down all of Western civilization - a civilization they themselves founded. A rather tragic irony - which is something they also invented. - Jon Stewart

Thanks, Zen. It's going to be a ride, that's for sure.

I just got off the phone with Mommy. My Cousin C (he's my Dad's first cousin, about 65) is in the end stages of his cancer. I tried to see him before I left but we weren't able to make that work out. He's done a lot of geneological work and wants me to take up his research, not just let is lie there. Of course I'm happy to do that. And I'm happy to be able to put his mind at ease even though I'm so far away. Not getting to say good bye to him, however, is pretty rough.

His daughter S and I grew up together, same age and all. Watching all my cousins lose and maybe lose their parents is pretty hard going.


Glamcookie - Aug 11, 2010 8:04:17 am PDT #28175 of 30000
I know my own heart and understand my fellow man. But I am made unlike anyone I have ever met. I dare to say I am like no one in the whole world. - Anne Lister

{{{Trudes}}}

So, parents, how did you decide whether or not to have a 2nd child?

Signed,
Not getting any younger


Daisy Jane - Aug 11, 2010 8:10:50 am PDT #28176 of 30000
"This bar smells like kerosene and stripper tears."

((((Oh Trudy!))))

Man, GC. We can't even figure out whether or not to have a first. On the one hand, kidlet to make into a person! On the other travel, nightlife, relative freedom! On the one hand passing down tradition, love, trying to put a force for good out there. On the other insurance, medical costs, the world as it is today.


Aims - Aug 11, 2010 8:11:38 am PDT #28177 of 30000
Shit's all sorts of different now.

For me, it was always just something I wanted. And on the pragmatic side, I didn't think it was fair to make one child be responsible for two parents down the line. I don't know what I would do if there was only me to deal with my parents when they get old and will need extra care.

As for the not getting any older, take it from me and if you want to do it, do it now. Hindsight being what it is, I wish Joe and I had gotten started on #2 a lot sooner than we did.


Cashmere - Aug 11, 2010 8:16:16 am PDT #28178 of 30000
Now tagless for your comfort.

So, parents, how did you decide whether or not to have a 2nd child?

When we survived the first one.


Trudy Booth - Aug 11, 2010 8:30:55 am PDT #28179 of 30000
Greece's financial crisis threatens to take down all of Western civilization - a civilization they themselves founded. A rather tragic irony - which is something they also invented. - Jon Stewart

Thanks for the hugs. Its going to be a haul.

Do you still have goodies left lying around, Glam, or would be harvesting eggs again?


Glamcookie - Aug 11, 2010 8:33:52 am PDT #28180 of 30000
I know my own heart and understand my fellow man. But I am made unlike anyone I have ever met. I dare to say I am like no one in the whole world. - Anne Lister

I have 8 "snowbabies" (ugh), so we'd be doing IVF (actually FET) again. So hard to decide!


sj - Aug 11, 2010 8:36:35 am PDT #28181 of 30000
"There are few hours in life more agreeable than the hour dedicated to the ceremony known as afternoon tea."

{{{Trudy}}} I'm so sorry.

GC, I have no idea, but you do make exceptionally cute babies.

I'm feeling myself get older every second and feeling less able to deal with a baby all the time, which really doesn't make me want one any less.


Spidra Webster - Aug 11, 2010 9:08:25 am PDT #28182 of 30000
I wish I could just go somewhere to get flensed but none of the whaling ships near me take Medicare.

(((Trudy)))


erikaj - Aug 11, 2010 9:09:31 am PDT #28183 of 30000
Always Anti-fascist!

I get hormonal and think I want one, but mostly I think I'm not cut out for it. Which is okay, I guess, since I'm 36 and as far from that as it's possible to imagine without *actually* being the crazy lady who screams at passing cars from her box on the vacant lot. But there is part of me that hates to let the opportunity go. That's not something to do to have an experience, though, and my mother was like Chris Rock's mom about it. "You know, I've raised my children."(plus, lucky me, being the caretaking gift that keeps on giving.)