Yay cake! Also, what Bev said.
Whoa! I... I think I'm having a thought. Yeah, yeah, yeah, that's a thought. Now I'm having a plan. Now I'm having a wiggins.
Xander ,'First Date'
Spike's Bitches 45: That sure as hell wasn't in the brochure.
[NAFDA] Spike-centric discussion. Lusty, lewd (only occasionally crude), risqué (and frisqué), bawdy (Oh, lawdy!), flirty ('cuz we're purty), raunchy talk inside. Caveat lector.
Laura - Aug 09, 2010 1:48:26 pm PDT #28026 of 30000
Our wings are not tired.
Cashmere - Aug 09, 2010 2:24:31 pm PDT #28027 of 30000
Now tagless for your comfort.
Debet, I am so sorry.
omnis_audis - Aug 09, 2010 2:57:14 pm PDT #28028 of 30000
omnis, pursue. That's an order from a shy woman who can use M-16. - Shir
Does this mean Harry Potter will visit MI, with bells & whistles on?
Happy b-day Aims!! Have a slice of cake for me.
DCJensen - Aug 09, 2010 5:27:11 pm PDT #28029 of 30000
All is well that ends in pizza.
Steph L. - Aug 09, 2010 5:36:45 pm PDT #28030 of 30000
I look more rad than Lutheranism
Wow, that was rough. I got to the funeral home before the official calling hours, because (1) I'm family, and (2) I knew I'd probably lose my shit and I wanted to do so before people other than the immediate family arrived.
So I got there, found Tim, and avoided the casket. But eventually I needed to go up before other people arrived, so I did. And I lost my shit entirely. Part of it was that I had never seen her without her oxygen cannula on, and seeing her without it was just a jolt. Part of it was that she looked very good (I've seen some people who don't look all that good at the visitation) -- her face looked a little fuller and not as pale as she was the last time I saw her.
And then part of it is because, well, she's dead. God damn it.
So I lost it, but actually probably not all that dramatically, and I went in the family area where there was water and such, and pulled myself together. And then I was more or less fine for the next 4 hours (my dad came, and my mom and stepdad [not all 3 together], and I got to introduce them to the family, which was nice, if odd).
And then at the end, when it was just the immediate family again, the funeral director told us to take as long as we needed to say goodbye, and I lost my shit again. Tim, on the other hand, was a trouper. He was fine all night. Later, he said to me, "This is the easy part, because there are rituals to follow, and stuff to do, and people to talk to. The hard part is going to be later. Like November." (His birthday and his mom's are in November.)
We came home and there was quiche in the fridge that his boss had made. Joy! t edit Not that his boss snuck in with the quiche; Tim brought it home from work before he went out to the funeral home.
WindSparrow - Aug 09, 2010 5:41:24 pm PDT #28031 of 30000
Love is stronger than death and harder than sorrow. Those who practice it are fierce like the light of stars traveling eons to pierce the night.
"This is the easy part, because there are rituals to follow, and stuff to do, and people to talk to. The hard part is going to be later. Like November."
Yeah, Novembers suck that way.
beth b - Aug 09, 2010 5:42:57 pm PDT #28032 of 30000
oh joy! Oh Rapture ! I have a brain!
{[Steph}} those are not hugs -- they are brackets of support . Maybe I like I-beams would be better
-t - Aug 09, 2010 5:49:48 pm PDT #28033 of 30000
I am a woman of various inclinations and only some of the time are they to burn everything down in frustration
Glad you got through it, Steph, and that there was quiche.
JZ - Aug 09, 2010 5:52:06 pm PDT #28034 of 30000
See? I gave everybody here an opportunity to tell me what a bad person I am and nobody did, because I fuckin' rule.
Billions of good thoughts headed out to you and Tim. I'm so glad you have each other.
And I think Tim's good-hearted quiche-making boss should go to your workplace and give some lessons in acting like a compassionate human being toward grieving co-workers; or possibly just resoundingly crack some heads together.
sj - Aug 09, 2010 8:35:28 pm PDT #28035 of 30000
"There are few hours in life more agreeable than the hour dedicated to the ceremony known as afternoon tea."
{{{Teppy and Tim}}} I have felt the way Tim felt when I have lost people. Getting through the wake and funeral you take comfort in knowing what to expect and when that is over everything really hits you.
We're home from the Cape. I really loved the wedding site we visited and I wish the trip could have been longer.