But I think I'm going to lose it. Which also pisses me off, because I want to be able to comfort Tim and his family, not need comforting myself.
Dude, you're allowed to cry at a funeral. I rather doubt Tim loves you because of your stoicism.
Right, what's a little sweater sniffing between sworn enemies?
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DavidS - Aug 09, 2010 6:28:36 am PDT #27986 of 30000
"Look, son, if it's good enough for Shirley Bassey, it's good enough for you."
Connie Neil - Aug 09, 2010 6:32:33 am PDT #27987 of 30000
brillig
Miss Manners was my savior when I had to do greeting duties at my FIL's funeral. My brain was stuck in "Hubby needs me!" mode, but I was able to channel Miss Manners' "The ritual forms you may disregard actually have a valid use in difficult situations" advice and focus on the situation.
Fred Pete - Aug 09, 2010 6:36:42 am PDT #27988 of 30000
Ann, that's a ferret.
Debet, fuck cancer indeed. Sideways. With a chainsaw.
Steph, if you need to cry, then cry. In-laws (legally recognized or otherwise) are part of the family, too. (And if I may toss out an idea, it may help to have a family friend or two designated to help out those who completely lose it and can't get it back.)
-t - Aug 09, 2010 7:04:03 am PDT #27989 of 30000
I am a woman of various inclinations and only some of the time are they to burn everything down in frustration
please don't ignore your own grief. It's okay to need comforting, and sometimes it helps those grieving to have someone to cry with.
Very much this.
Zenkitty - Aug 09, 2010 7:07:12 am PDT #27990 of 30000
Every now and then, I think I might actually be a little odd.
I'm sorry, Debet.
Teppy, what everyone said. Cry if you need to, and let Tim comfort you if he can. Sometimes comforting others is a comfort itself.
smonster - Aug 09, 2010 7:08:17 am PDT #27991 of 30000
We won’t stop until everyone is gay.
Fuck cancer, Debet.
Teppy, listen to the wise peoples. However you react, try not to judge it. Tim knows you are there for him, and he knows you are grieving, too.
Steph L. - Aug 09, 2010 7:08:21 am PDT #27992 of 30000
I look more rad than Lutheranism
Oooh, PLUS! Today will be the first time my mom, stepdad, and dad will be meeting Tim's family. FUCKING WEIRD.
Vortex - Aug 09, 2010 7:19:12 am PDT #27993 of 30000
"Cry havoc and let slip the boobs of war!" -- Miracleman
Oooh, PLUS! Today will be the first time my mom, stepdad, and dad will be meeting Tim's family. FUCKING WEIRD.
yes, but good for you to have someone there that has you as their priority. If you don't want to break down in front of Tim's family, you can do it with your family.
Steph L. - Aug 09, 2010 7:24:11 am PDT #27994 of 30000
I look more rad than Lutheranism
I suspect I put too much faith in my waterproof mascara. I shouldn't have worn it today. We'll see.
Daisy Jane - Aug 09, 2010 7:28:12 am PDT #27995 of 30000
"This bar smells like kerosene and stripper tears."
If you don't want to break down in front of Tim's family, you can do it with your family.
This is one of the reasons I love my in-laws so much. When Alex died, they were those people for me.