t feels the need to change careers again and move back to Cali to work for java
Giles, help! He's going to scold me!
Buffy ,'Never Leave Me'
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Aims - Dec 09, 2009 9:28:17 am PST #2768 of 30000
Shit's all sorts of different now.
§ ita § - Dec 09, 2009 9:30:46 am PST #2769 of 30000
Well not canonically, no, but this is transformative fiction.
The penalty I paid for not showing stress was to get pushed into high stress situations. I wasn't sure how to explain I was feeling stress, I just didn't think it appropriate to show it like my co-workers did. But at my first Cali job I got all the stressful business users because I was always laid back. I think I took too much of that into my last job.
I'm so not laid back now, but I'm still refusing to act stressed. I'll just speak up before it gets to that point, as politely as I can.
Trudy Booth - Dec 09, 2009 9:34:41 am PST #2770 of 30000
Greece's financial crisis threatens to take down all of Western civilization - a civilization they themselves founded. A rather tragic irony - which is something they also invented. - Jon Stewart
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javachik - Dec 09, 2009 9:35:14 am PST #2771 of 30000
Our wings are not tired.
Aims, I think it's time you had some of your own employees, because you have the smarts and the empathy required of a good boss.
ita, you're right. There is definitely the fine line of showing stress or not, and the results. That's a lesson I had to learn, and am still learning. I learned a long time ago that flailing the stress didn't do anybody any good, but I've also learned how to say "no", or at least calmly describe the projects I already have (and the repercussions) when I can sense that I am about to be overloaded.
Trudy, you're sweet.
Seriously, though, there aren't a lot of situations, as a manager, that just having actual compassion and a bit of humor can't resolve. And I have found that my willingness and tendency to jump in and take on the worst of the work (not all of the time, but when circumstance allows) goes a loooooooong way.
Nora Deirdre - Dec 09, 2009 9:36:03 am PST #2772 of 30000
I’m responsible for my own happiness? I can’t even be responsible for my own breakfast! (Bojack Horseman)
OMG, so my boss was like, I actually wanted to meet about something else, BUT... "All of that said, it might now be a disservice to both of us to ignore the underlying tone and message of your response. I encourage us to chat about it as well with a positive attitude and goal in mind."
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Aims - Dec 09, 2009 9:39:03 am PST #2773 of 30000
Shit's all sorts of different now.
Aims, I think it's time you had some of your own employees, because you have the smarts and the empathy required of a good boss.
You are so sweet!! To be truthful about myself though, I don't think I would make a very good boss. I tend to hover. And just do things myself. Which are things that annoy the shit out of me when I'm an employee. And I can be bad at communication.
javachik - Dec 09, 2009 9:39:04 am PST #2774 of 30000
Our wings are not tired.
Crap, Nora.
Frankenbuddha - Dec 09, 2009 9:43:59 am PST #2775 of 30000
"We are the Goon Squad and we're coming to town...Beep! Beep!" - David Bowie, "Fashion"
Oh lord, Nora. @@ to infinity indeed.
Anyone want to take bets that Nora's boss came up with the other reason for the meeting AFTER they got the email?
-t - Dec 09, 2009 9:45:06 am PST #2776 of 30000
I am a woman of various inclinations and only some of the time are they to burn everything down in frustration
Bummer, Nora. And I know this is entirely beside the point but that "I encourage us to chat about it" makes me want to smack him.
Aims - Dec 09, 2009 9:45:38 am PST #2777 of 30000
Shit's all sorts of different now.
To Nora's boss I say, "Go encourage yourself."