Steph, I'm about one step removed from being in the same situation right now, and all I can say is, well, it sucks and a lot of it is just not knowing from one moment to the next what's the right thing or what the hell is going on. I think you have to go with whatever you will not regret. Follow those loving impulses. And I'm so sorry you are going through this.
Yes. Men like sports. Men watch the action movie, they eat of the beef, and enjoy to look at the bosoms. A thousand years of avenging our wrongs and that's all you've learned?
Xander ,'End of Days'
Spike's Bitches 45: That sure as hell wasn't in the brochure.
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sarameg - Jul 31, 2010 4:00:18 pm PDT #27121 of 30000
beekaytee - Jul 31, 2010 4:07:28 pm PDT #27122 of 30000
Compassionately intolerant
Raising my officiant hand!
DC is a lovely place to get married and it is easily accessible to all things on the eastern edge. I'd be thrilled to marry you sj. Perhaps on the deck of the Kennedy Center, overlooking the Potomac. You could then have a lovely dinner on the Waterfront, or in Georgetown and stay at one of the boutique hotels.
I still love my neighbor, Gene Weingarten's deal with his daughter. Elope? $25,000 in cash. Wedding? He'll come.
Burrell - Jul 31, 2010 4:10:27 pm PDT #27123 of 30000
Why did Darth Vader cross the road? To get to the Dark Side!
Steph, I am so sorry. I am sending you and The Boy love and strength.
WindSparrow - Jul 31, 2010 4:16:07 pm PDT #27124 of 30000
Love is stronger than death and harder than sorrow. Those who practice it are fierce like the light of stars traveling eons to pierce the night.
Gene Weingarten's deal with his daughter. Elope? $25,000 in cash. Wedding? He'll come.
I like that deal. Too bad there's nobody with the moolah to make it to me.
lisah - Jul 31, 2010 4:26:56 pm PDT #27125 of 30000
Punishingly Intricate
Steph, I'm thinking about you and your boy, his family, and his mother and wishing you all strength and peace.
hippocampus - Jul 31, 2010 4:45:41 pm PDT #27126 of 30000
not your mom's socks.
Steph we are thinking about you and the Boy's family here and wishing you strength and comfort.
Ie. What lisah said
NoiseDesign - Jul 31, 2010 5:20:52 pm PDT #27127 of 30000
Our wings are not tired
Steph I'm thinking of you.
I was in the boys situation with my dad. Pix was in yours. Trust me, everything you are doing means the world to him.
smonster - Jul 31, 2010 5:45:56 pm PDT #27128 of 30000
We won’t stop until everyone is gay.
So much strength and love going out to you and The Boy. We happened to be discussing a similar situation in DBT and one of the facilitators shared a bit of wisdom that has helped her: stay close, do nothing. Your presence is what matters.
Nora Deirdre - Jul 31, 2010 6:56:57 pm PDT #27129 of 30000
I’m responsible for my own happiness? I can’t even be responsible for my own breakfast! (Bojack Horseman)
{{Steph}}
sj, yay for sarcasm! I am sad these days, so it may color what I read.
beekaytee - Jul 31, 2010 7:11:32 pm PDT #27130 of 30000
Compassionately intolerant
a bit of wisdom that has helped her: stay close, do nothing.
Father Wendt, the founder of the agency where I was trained as a death, dying and bereavement counselor, talked about how he found his calling to work with those in transition.
As a young priest, he was nervous about 'doing it right' when visiting with the dying. Early on, one elderly lady set him right as he pontificated about the grace of death and her bravery, etc. etc. At one point, she interrupted him with, "Dear God. Could you please just shut up and rub my feet!"
Her putting him in his place became the foundation of a wonderful organization that has helped thousands and thousands of people.