Okay, I'm wondering if I'm being pissed for no reason here.

Best Friend is getting married in October. In San Diego. Neither she nor her fiance or their families are from there or currently live there; they just like San Diego. That's fine, whatever, the people getting married should get married wherever they want, as long as they understand that not everyone can make it due to finances, etc.

But that's NOT what I'm pissed about.

Also, the top of the info sheet with the invitation has a note that says "This is an adults-only weekend; no children, please." Obviously I don't have kids, so I'm not pissed about that, either, but I find it interesting, considering that she has 9 nieces and nephews. But, again, the couple getting married has every right to have whatever kind of wedding they want, and if they don't want kids there (which I actually think is an awesome idea, having been to too many weddings where feral children ran amok and made the reception like Romper Room), that's their choice. I just think it's weird, given all the nieces and nephews.

What I *am* pissed at -- incandescently so, actually -- is this: I've been living with The Boy for almost 3 years. The invitation is addressed to "Steph and Guest."

WHAT.

Look, if the rest of their invitation/plans adhered to strict Emily Post etiquette rules, I would be less pissed, because it's true that The Boy and I aren't married, so strict etiquette says (I think) that the invitation is to me, her friend, and the guest of my choosing.

But the invitation is all funky paper and casual wording and in no way formal. So I'm not really going to buy the excuse that it was addressed to "and Guest" because they were following what Emily Post says.

Seriously? I didn't just meet him LAST WEEK. He's "and Guest"???

I'm really honked off, and I'm just wondering if it's a reasonable fury.

Teppy, that has happened to me once or twice with invites, and TCG and I have been together 5 years. I usually assume they don't know his last name and are too lazy to call and find out.

I'd find that annoying too, Steph. Odd. I could see if it wasn't a close friend and didn't know The Boy's name or something. It's not right.

"Damn, she's only a tad bigger than me, but no stretch marks and shaped a lot nicer...".

She really does look lovely, meara. It is hard to imagine that she is only a tad bigger than you. Note to self: Never have a photograph taken ever again.

Yeah, she's your best friend! That's a little rude... but maybe she had people helping her address stuff?

Teppy, that has happened to me once or twice with invites, and TCG and I have been together 5 years. I usually assume they don't know his last name and are too lazy to call and find out.

Well, she took the trouble to e-mail to make sure she had my correct address to send the invitation to, so she could have asked what his last name is.

Grrrr.

maybe she had people helping her address stuff?

Printed on computer labels.

I usually assume they don't know his last name and are too lazy to call and find out.

Kinda gotta wonder if it is this one. I mean, that is a strange one to choose even if they are picking and choosing from Emily Post...

Well, she took the trouble to e-mail to make sure she had my correct address to send the invitation to, so she could have asked what his last name is.

Oh.

Yeah, grrr. I see nothing but acceptable grrr.

Yeah, I usually think of "and Guest" as "take a friend along so that you'll at least know somebody there and have someone to dance with." If there's someone specific that you know the person will be coming with, then address to that person, too.

That is grrrr I get all grrrr because I am 37 years old, and people still invite me (with no and guest) on my mom's invite. She apparently gets no "and guest" either!