Blaming everything on the patricarchy make you The Tool of the -----archy.
My stance on it is this: there is nothing wrong with porn, per se. Watch it together, alone, whatever. The porn industry is
generally
problematic in, yes, ways that have to do with the patriarchy/kyriarchy. Objectification of and violence against women, strict adherance to a monolithic beauty standard (even girl-on-girl action being clearly aimed towards a straight white male audience*), etc. And then there's child porn and "barely legal" porn.
I think what I'm saying is that I wouldn't have a problem with my partner watching porn, but there might be certain kinds that I prefer s/he not watch, or at least I might opt out of watching them with her/him.
Timesuck is a whole 'nother thing, as several have pointed out. I can certain see the insecurity that the timesuck being porn might trigger - I think it's understandable even if not justified.
* At least back when I was perusing the VHS shelves at my local video store. I do not know what wonders the internet hath wroth, but I suspect it is proportionally similar.
women who find it demeaning to women/antithetical to feminism. Granted, some of it is horrible, but some of it is even made by women. But expressing any appreciation for porn make some people go off on "You're a tool of the patriarchy!" rants.
Same thing with people who think that BDSM (and, more specifically, submission) is anti-feminist. Really? A woman owning her sexuality and choosing how to express it is ANTI-feminist?
The argument being, of course, than no woman can make such a choice because the patriarchy has already warped our ideas of sexuality.
(That's a conundrum, though, because wouldn't the SAME patriarchy have warped the worldview of those who decry BDSM? I mean, let's all start from the same spot, okay? If I'm a tool of the patriarchy, so are they.)
The argument being, of course, than no woman can make such a choice because the patriarchy has already warped our ideas of sexuality.
Yeah, I've read that as an argument for the assertion that a woman can't be a feminist unless she's a lesbian.
oh, for the flippin' love of fuck's sweet sister;
2nd mortgage place told us house has NOT been auctioned off.
And we STILL haven't been able to get anyone by phone since we got the letter Friday.
Look. You. I understand there is a backlog. This is why we've been getting our willy diddled for the last 9 months. But someone needs to call us back or pick up the fucking phone. Because if I have to call, it will be because I have gotten into a fight about it with my sweet husband and I Will Not Be Amused. At all.
Sincerely,
I Just Want To Talk To Someone Who Knows What The Fuck Is Up.
Now.
Yeah, I've read that as an argument for the assertion that a woman can't be a feminist unless she's a lesbian.
See, as soon as a person tells me what I *have to* be, then I'ma call foul and say that THAT person isn't exactly my idea of a feminist.
Apparantly, my Pandora is set to "Jilli" - I just got Siouxsie followed by Bowie.
I win!
What I win, I don't know. But I win!
And now it went to The Cure. Jilli totally wins!!
What I win, I don't know. But I win!
Fudge!
Or if you don't like fudge, then cupcakes.
