I don't care if D. looks at porn. I don't think he does, too terribly much, but it doesn't bother me. I would think it odder if he did not.

There are plenty of things that can cause a rift in a relationship, but honestly, I think housework would come WAY before porn for most people.

Tep, yes, there is a...something, a rock, a site. I have no idea (whitefont for delicacy and respect)if there are any remains buried there, since I do not want to pry, but it is my assumption.

I completely understand the reasoning behind it, but I do find it a touch disconcerting. Esp. since the father is unknown.

I may take this down in a bit.

I think housework would come WAY before porn for most people.

I know which I'd rather do.

Are you going to be able to make a visit to see places?

Yeah, I'm going to go look at apartments this weekend.

I like to look at vintage porn sometimes, but porn makes up about 2 hours of my year. Housework, way more. I would happily trade porn for housework! "Half hour of housework for an hour of porn!"

We haven't ever looked at porn together, but honestly, I like erotica better.

Hubby has seen some of my gay porn and freaks out a little. I try to keep it away from him, because he's delicate. :)

Dealing with the women who don't understand why their guy likes porn is easier than dealing with the women who find it demeaning to women/antithetical to feminism. Granted, some of it is horrible, but some of it is even made by women. But expressing any appreciation for porn make some people go off on "You're a tool of the patriarchy!" rants.

I am a tool of naked people, more like. Jesus. Blaming everything on the patricarchy make you The Tool of the -----archy.

Apparantly, my Pandora is set to "Jilli" - I just got Siouxsie followed by Bowie.

Blaming everything on the patricarchy make you The Tool of the -----archy.

My stance on it is this: there is nothing wrong with porn, per se. Watch it together, alone, whatever. The porn industry is generally problematic in, yes, ways that have to do with the patriarchy/kyriarchy. Objectification of and violence against women, strict adherance to a monolithic beauty standard (even girl-on-girl action being clearly aimed towards a straight white male audience*), etc. And then there's child porn and "barely legal" porn.

I think what I'm saying is that I wouldn't have a problem with my partner watching porn, but there might be certain kinds that I prefer s/he not watch, or at least I might opt out of watching them with her/him.

Timesuck is a whole 'nother thing, as several have pointed out. I can certain see the insecurity that the timesuck being porn might trigger - I think it's understandable even if not justified.

* At least back when I was perusing the VHS shelves at my local video store. I do not know what wonders the internet hath wroth, but I suspect it is proportionally similar.

women who find it demeaning to women/antithetical to feminism. Granted, some of it is horrible, but some of it is even made by women. But expressing any appreciation for porn make some people go off on "You're a tool of the patriarchy!" rants.

Same thing with people who think that BDSM (and, more specifically, submission) is anti-feminist. Really? A woman owning her sexuality and choosing how to express it is ANTI-feminist?

The argument being, of course, than no woman can make such a choice because the patriarchy has already warped our ideas of sexuality.

(That's a conundrum, though, because wouldn't the SAME patriarchy have warped the worldview of those who decry BDSM? I mean, let's all start from the same spot, okay? If I'm a tool of the patriarchy, so are they.)

kyriarchy?