I'm sorting through my food to try to find something that I can make for dinner without having to go grocery shopping. Why do I have eight cans of pinto beans and a total of three cans of all other kinds of beans? Also, what can I make with pinto beans?

Beans on toast?

Tostada (if you have salsa or salsa ingredients and tortilla)

Faux Torta (Beans with salsa on toast if you don't have tortilla)

Beans and rice ?

Dear class mate and a friend:

I like you and think you're great. Now would you please, please, please come out of the closet already? I don't have a Gaydar, yet, darling, you're way too obvious.

Seriously. I see you watching other boys with a very familiar look for couple of months now. Give the both of us a break, OK?

Love you very much, but for God's sake, come out already or I'll scream,
Me

P.S.: do so in the next month and I'll hook you up with a very awesome friend of mine.

Why do I have eight cans of pinto beans and a total of three cans of all other kinds of beans? Also, what can I make with pinto beans?

Baked beans on toast? You could probably make something like this, although you'd probably need to add a little ham or bacon.

Actually, that sounds pretty good. Maybe I'll make that for dinner myself.

Coming out is extremely difficult, even when you feel like you are likely to be accepted. It took me years to do it in the workplace and with certain friends. Unless you've been there, you just can't know what it's like.

I have no bread or tortillas or anything else like that. I think I decided on spaghetti with beanballs. The beanball recipe uses red kidney beans, but I think I can substitute pinto beans with no problem.

Coming out is extremely difficult, even when you feel like you are likely to be accepted. It took me years to do it in the workplace and with certain friends. Unless you've been there, you just can't know what it's like.

I know/guess, GC, and I'm sorry if this was disrespectful or hurt you or any other queer Buffista.

I just needed to vent. I do care about him. But seeing him twice a week, with the puppy-eyes of his, looking at some other guy... a girl can only take so much.

a girl can only take so much.

I don't understand. If you are already sure he's gay, what distress is it causing you?

Y'know, Shir - when I came out to my dear friend John, some years after I'd realised I was gay, he went home and said to his g/f that he was sad I'd not trusted him with this before. (He told me this much later.) Apparently, her response was that he shouldn't be so silly, because he had no idea what circumstances were making it difficult for me to come out to my friends. She is a wise lady.

In my case, 20+ years of religious intolerance, both external and internal, stopped me telling *anyone* until I was in my mid-twenties. It can take people quite some time. That's not personal, though.

I don't understand. If you are already sure he's gay, what distress is it causing you?

Seeing him going through this and battling himself, on his own. He doesn't have a lot of self confidence to begin with, so I can't imagine what this is doing to him.

But. I was only venting and joking, and clearly it's the wrong place, crowd and possibly thing to say to begin with. Again, I apologize.