It has been absolutely delightful to hear about you enjoying your trip, Sean. My feelings of jealousy are quelled somewhat by someone so deserving having this vacation.
Go P-C! Enjoy.
Good call, Hil. I know it is frustrating not to have a position, but the wrong place wouldn't help anything.
I am trying really hard to change my attitude toward her. I know that it hurts Joe that I don't much care for his mother. He knows it's not *new*, my not liking her, but I want to try to not be so hostile. She's his mom. She's my child's grandmother. It makes things that much harder. But then she says stupid shit like always, and I fall back into being hostile and angry.
I'm not going to suggest communicating with the MIL if it causes you more pain, but some people don't get that they are causing a problem unless you let them know. This isn't a friend or coworker that you can just block from life so an effort to let her know she hurt you might be helpful. People do say stupid shit, but sometimes they grow if you call them on it. If she is deliberately hurtful then that is a different story. If she just says clueless things, then lend her a clue. (feel free to ignore me, and please accept hugs)
I've just noticed that for some time I have been catching up on hundreds of posts and responding in my head, but not on the actual keyboard. Must remember to post.
Honestly, the whole grandparents feeling like they have a say in how many kids you have is something I don't get. If/when I get married and my mother (or his mother) says something to me, I will say, politely "thanks for your interest, but this is something that futurehubby and I want to keep between the two of us. If there's something to tell, you'll be one of the first"
Many sympathies, Aims.
I'm not going to suggest communicating with the MIL if it causes you more pain, but some people don't get that they are causing a problem unless you let them know.
I agree with this as far as it goes. But could Joe say something?
It has been absolutely delightful to hear about you enjoying your trip, Sean. My feelings of jealousy are quelled somewhat by someone so deserving having this vacation.
Yes, this!
I'm not going to suggest communicating with the MIL if it causes you more pain, but some people don't get that they are causing a problem unless you let them know. This isn't a friend or coworker that you can just block from life so an effort to let her know she hurt you might be helpful. People do say stupid shit, but sometimes they grow if you call them on it.
Also this. Apparently Laura is speaking for me today. Excellent! I'm sorry, though, hon. My parents know better, but I'm just waiting for ND's mom and sister to start asking, and I don't know how I'm going to handle that.
After us, right?
BWAH! It's funny because it's soooo true.
Guess what? Drew came up with the PERFECT name for future puppy! She's cute as a button, friendly, gets along with everyone, and yet has inner strength...clearly she's a KAYLEE! We saw Jess (yay!) briefly for lunch because she ended up getting out of work early, and she approves. We also think that everything is funnier with "von Pilsner" after it. (I will always call puppy Kaylee von Pilsner, much to ND's chagrin.) We've also decided Jess' future!baby should have "von Pilsner" somewhere in his/her name.
Kaylee! Perfect. (I like von Pilsner too)
Kaylee is a great name!
She is such a lucky pooch.
Kaylee von Pilsner. Like it.
She just ... well, she doesn't get to do that. Sorry.
She can do that all she wants...just not to you. Ever again. But you have to tell her that yourself. I know it's hard, but it will stop her from stomping all over your feelings in the future. Plus, it's good that she knows what's going on. I am a big believer in honesty in these sorts of situations. Honestly, My MiL would still be asking me when we are having children even AFTER my hysterectomy, if I didn't explain to her a long time ago that wasn't gonna be happening.
