For the most part, I'm cool with that...except that the only times she chooses to check in with me are when she's in the car, eating or waiting in an office. It's really beginning to bug me.

If you can't find time for me, please don't bother 'squeezing me in', it's not better than ignoring me, believe it or not.

I guess it depends on whether you used to engage in regular phone calls, but if she's calling you frequently in the car, eating, or waiting in an office, I think that means she likes talking to you. I have a few people I tend to call when I'm walking somewhere and want to use that time to catch up or just chat as well.

(Basically, what ND said.)

Anyway, it hurt and I was feeling pouty, so I told the bff. She responds with, "Sorry to hear How much weight loss will it contribute to? Kidding"

Ergh. Not the best joke ever. But it's hard to gauge without knowing her.

I totally get that ND. You work so very hard, and are away all the time.

My friend? Retired.

Living in AZ with so little to do that she's already looking for a new gig despite saying she'd never work again.

eta: What is the friend version of 'I'm just not that into you anymore?'

She keeps telling me how much she can't wait to see me at the end of the month and I think the thing I have to come to peace with is, for her out of sight really is out of mind.

It's certainly an insensitive remark, bonny, but my tendency would be to attribute it to thoughtlessness, not intentional spite. I don't say that to downplay it, as thoughtlessness is a problem in and of itself, but it's a different set of issues.

I think you are all right...and Burrell, that is the thing.

I really care about her and I don't think she's spiteful. But, yeah, the thoughtlessness piece is what's getting to me.

I've already mentioned that I'd appreciate if she'd wait until she's finished her meal to call...the crunching/gulping noises are kinda gross...but that hasn't really sunk in.

Yeeeeah, I don't think calling while eating is the best idea. I recall doing it once, but it was with a friend I knew would find it hilarious and enjoyable.

About the calls: you could always say you'd rather call her back later at an agreed-upon time, then make a point of doing it.

Yeah, especially with the time change, calling my friends on the east coast when I'm in the car or walking somewhere is pretty much when I call them!! On weekend days, occasionally, but, I figure they're busy then too!

About the calls: you could always say you'd rather call her back later at an agreed-upon time, then make a point of doing it.

I like it. I'm on it.

Oh my, I hope I didn't kill the thread with my whining.

Nah.

Had an awesome dinner. Eggplant Marsala, which I would have assumed would be totally common, a la eggplant v. chicken parmesan. And yet, about three recipes online. None of which I used, me being me.

Also minted peas, with mint from the garden and fresh shelled peas from the farmers market. Nom. This prompted the discovery that I have yet another cat who is mad for peas. WTH, cats?