As Miss Manners is of the opinion that there is no good/polite/nice way to break up with someone - no matter what you say or how, breaking up with someone is going to make them unhappy - I think smonster can do this however she damn well pleases. Over the phone, in person, carrier pigeon, semaphore*, whatever.

(*Please note that breaking up by semaphore does require both parties to be able to decode semaphore signals, and therefore may be not be ideal unless you are breaking up at sea in the 19th century.)

Semaphore breakups are cumbersome at best. First you board ships...

I have no break up advice for Smonster, just tons of virtual support from TX.

ION. I haz ESCAPED! Sad when getting away from work at 5:30 is considered escaping. Either way, I'm home, about to cook some grub to eat, and sit in fluffy, and quite possibly fall asleep before the woot changes over. And I count that as a victory!!!

askye, remind me (if you don't mind sharing) -- where is the pain? And what kind of pain is it? And do you have other symptoms? And does anything precipitate the pain and/or other symptoms?

I don't mind sharing. It's a little hard for me to describe (I feel like my fat is getting in the way, I think it would be easier if I had a flatish stomach and a Mr Good Body suit on, well a Ms Good body suit... I digrees).

It's almost like there are two separate things going on: 1- I have an almost constant ache about hip level and I feel it more in the back. It's not back pain, this is going to sound weird, but it's more of a spherical pain feeling rather than a flat back pain feeling. That's the best way to describe it.

So the pain will flare up and be really bad like Sunday night. The pain kinda blossomed and was larger but was more toward the front and ached and there was radiating pain down almost like a line towards more of my pelvic area. It was like there was the big main pain and then a slight tether of pain down to a base where it hurt more than the tether but less than the main pain. Sort of a shooting pain.

When they did the pelvic ultrasound with the wand at first it felt weird but not bad, she pressed to the right and I felt pressure but not pain, like when you get a pelvic exam. When she pressed to the right it hurt so bad, but it felt like it was on the otherside of where the wand was.

Also when the pain flares and I sit in certain positions or lie on my left side it feels like I'm pressing on something and that causes more pain.

That's probably more than you wanted to hear but I haven't been able to tell the doctor all this.

I hope you can get it figured out, askye. Ouch.

That's probably more than you wanted to hear but I haven't been able to tell the doctor all this.

Maybe print this out and take it to your doctor.

askye, that sounds almost exactly like the pain I had when I had a cystic ovary. The wand ultrasound showed the cyst clearly. In my case the problem resolved itself (somehow), but often it needs intervention.

Not that that's necessarily what you have. I just mean to say, your description of the pain doesn't make you sound wacky or anything.

Maybe print this out and take it to your doctor.

I second this suggestion. Alternatively, write down notes of what your pain feels like under various circumstances. Having stuff written down makes it easier to remember all the little details that tend to get completely sucked out of one's brain the moment one sees a white coat. It is a strategy that has helped me on more than one occasion, especially when I was so worn down and emotionally fragile I couldn't even talk to the doc - I just handed him the list.

I'm taking the poll b/c I just found out that a friend in a somewhat similar situation broke up w/ her BF recently via phone and wondered what the current feeling was on that practice.

I second this suggestion. Alternatively, write down notes of what your pain feels like under various circumstances. Having stuff written down makes it easier to remember all the little details that tend to get completely sucked out of one's brain the moment one sees a white coat. It is a strategy that has helped me on more than one occasion, especially when I was so worn down and emotionally fragile I couldn't even talk to the doc - I just handed him the list.

This makes surreal sense given smonster was considering a letter breakup.

Scrappy is wise. Jessica is funny. Many peeps make good points. And smonster love her Bitches. It's more complicated than I want to get into here, especially stealth typing on an iPhone from KBD's house. But the input is appreciated

I will most likely do it in person with letter backup.

Calli, whatcha doin' Saturday afternoon?