Glad to here the the GF wants him to finish. I feel better about things all ready .

Government jobs are the same -- I 've been told my ranking. i actually find it helpful . out of hundreds of candidates I tend to rank high , but not number one. I tend to do better at my job than I interview. Knowing this has made me better at interviewing.

In a case of the booster needing a boost, I could use a shift in perspective.

Lots of good things are happening. Business is just okay, but I've vowed to give up fear as a lifestyle choice so I'm soldiering on. Lovely things like the wedding are making my days pretty darned good.

And yet. I am massively unmotivated in an area I really need to get moving on.

Long story shortened: It's taken months and months to convince the gym to barter for my membership with a member support program that will do me as much good as anyone else. Much dragging of feet, despite genuine interest.

I had the fire in my belly for this in February. It's June and I am paralyzed with the not caring. The point of contact has been handed off three times and it's like pulling chicken teeth to get any response.

Did I mention that, despite the program not being off the ground yet, I have had a membership for a month and used it zero times?

I feel terrible that I don't care! I would be so happy if 15 lbs would fall off of me right now, but that ain't gonna happen. I'm sad that my bff/coach left town and now I can't seem to get my backside moving.

Where can I find some motivation!?

If it were actually delivered by a giant reptile, sure.

I was quoting Dinosaur Comics. Actually, I was mocking omnis' comment about the runner-up crown. But not in a particularly serious or venomous way.

I thought the comment in itself was self-evidently ironic. Making fun of the winners only mentality etc.

So if she or someone else gets her feelings hurt, it's because of our insufficient sense of irony and not your complete ignorance about the importance of context?

I am not completely ignorant about context. However, my context presumes that Hil knows me well enough to know that I do not consider her a loser. If I am mistaken in this regard, or have hurt her feelings I'll apologize to her. I'm sure she'll let me know.

Well, I guess one of the complications with public forums is that your comment, though directed at Hil, is read by all. And just like in offline life, people (me, in this case)will speak up on behalf of others.

Sometimes, and I am not speaking for Hil here, only for myself, speaking up when your feelings are hurt isn't easy to do. Especially when the person making the remark is a friend. So, just in general, I don't assume silence means a person is okay with it.

Where can I find some motivation!?

My story , not sure it helps. For me to get my butt in gear, I had to figure me out. And the truth is , I 'm willing to sit on my computer all day. or watch tv, or read. But I need the exercise to feel better and to sleep. allergies/asthma and to a minor extent diabetes makes it hard, also

so 1) I will never be ideal about exercise 2) sometimes it won't happen 3) if I have to 'start over' so be it.

over the last few years forgiving my self for not doing well gotten easier , timeb etween restats is shorter and that being happy with small efforts makes it easier to even thinking about ways to make greater effort has been easier.

With regards to getting motivated to exercise, I find that it helps hugely if I have an event I'm training for. Like how I need to get back to running now because I'm part of a relay team in the Bmore Marathon in October.

exercise motivation. When in Dallas, co-worker/neighbor was a workout buddy. Neither of us were particularly motivated to go to the free gym in our apartment complex, but both needed it. So we set day/times to go, and went. There were plenty of times we shared "eh, if you hadn't called, I wouldn't have gone" which the other usually pipped up "damn it, I didn't want to go either, but felt bad if I backed out". So mutual guilt is a wonderful thing. But I understand your BFF is gone. Maybe schedule for the morning, before your brain realizes it doesn't want to do it. After a couple visits, it becomes habit. So say, every Tuesday & Thursday morning, or something like that.

I guess one of the complications with public forums is that your comment, though directed at Hil

As noted it was actually in response to omnis.

I don't think he took offense either, but if he did I'll apologize.

Deleted because I have a meeting to run to and this has run its course.

When in Dallas, co-worker/neighbor was a workout buddy.

When I lived in PR, I had two awesome workout friends. One preferred to walk, which was great because at the time, I was pregnant and not up for running much. The other was a fitness nut and was always up for running no matter what. I miss having someone like that around. As an aside, Joe and I running together never works well.