Congratulations on everything coming off without a hitch, Bonny. Or with only the intended hitch.

Indeed. Sounds like it was a wonderful experience for all.

Hil, here's hoping for something more definitive soon.

I long for menopause.

I highly recommend it.

Thanks to all of you for the support on the 18 year old thing. He came to the family event at my house with his girlfriend and a good time was had by all. They took some of his clothes with them. He is staying with her for the time being, as in till her mother has her fill of it. GF is in total agreement on him just finishing HS already and stop the excuses. We'll see how it goes.

I think Hil's got a sufficiently developed sense of irony not to take career advice from a Giant reptile.

So if she or someone else gets her feelings hurt, it's because of our insufficient sense of irony and not your complete ignorance about the importance of context? Noted. You should really know that looking for a job is an extremely sensitive time in someone's life. And it might have been a quote by a dinosaur or what the fuck ever, but the implication was that Hil was a loser for not being chosen right off.

This is the standard way to handle things in academia. After a series of interviews the department (1) votes up or down on each candidate about whether they want to hire them if a position is available and (2) ranks them. About half the time, none of the candidates survives #1, so you just restart the search the next year. If you end up with more viable candidates than positions, then it's a waiting game for someone, but you still let them know that you intend to offer them a position if it is possible to do so.

I think Hil's got a sufficiently developed sense of irony not to take career advice from a Giant reptile.

If it were actually delivered by a giant reptile, sure. But it was actually delivered by a human who thought it was an apt choice. So.

This is the standard way to handle things in academia. After a series of interviews the department (1) votes up or down on each candidate about whether they want to hire them if a position is available and (2) ranks them. About half the time, none of the candidates survives #1, so you just restart the search the next year. If you end up with more viable candidates than positions, then it's a waiting game for someone, but you still let them know that you intend to offer them a position if it is possible to do so.

Certainly the case when my cousin and her husband were looking for professorships. And they both landed at esteemed universities.

GF is in total agreement on him just finishing HS already and stop the excuses. We'll see how it goes.

My younger brother graduated hs but just barely. He had to go to summer school every year including after he'd walked in the graduation ceremony. And then he was verrry dilettante-ish about getting through his first year of college. Then he moved in with his girlfriend (actually she moved into the house he was in and they started dating) and she helped motivate him to take school much more seriously. They transferred to another state and he finished and then went to a great law school and now is a lawyer.

Glad to here the the GF wants him to finish. I feel better about things all ready .

Government jobs are the same -- I 've been told my ranking. i actually find it helpful . out of hundreds of candidates I tend to rank high , but not number one. I tend to do better at my job than I interview. Knowing this has made me better at interviewing.

In a case of the booster needing a boost, I could use a shift in perspective.

Lots of good things are happening. Business is just okay, but I've vowed to give up fear as a lifestyle choice so I'm soldiering on. Lovely things like the wedding are making my days pretty darned good.

And yet. I am massively unmotivated in an area I really need to get moving on.

Long story shortened: It's taken months and months to convince the gym to barter for my membership with a member support program that will do me as much good as anyone else. Much dragging of feet, despite genuine interest.

I had the fire in my belly for this in February. It's June and I am paralyzed with the not caring. The point of contact has been handed off three times and it's like pulling chicken teeth to get any response.

Did I mention that, despite the program not being off the ground yet, I have had a membership for a month and used it zero times?

I feel terrible that I don't care! I would be so happy if 15 lbs would fall off of me right now, but that ain't gonna happen. I'm sad that my bff/coach left town and now I can't seem to get my backside moving.

Where can I find some motivation!?

If it were actually delivered by a giant reptile, sure.

I was quoting Dinosaur Comics. Actually, I was mocking omnis' comment about the runner-up crown. But not in a particularly serious or venomous way.

I thought the comment in itself was self-evidently ironic. Making fun of the winners only mentality etc.

So if she or someone else gets her feelings hurt, it's because of our insufficient sense of irony and not your complete ignorance about the importance of context?

I am not completely ignorant about context. However, my context presumes that Hil knows me well enough to know that I do not consider her a loser. If I am mistaken in this regard, or have hurt her feelings I'll apologize to her. I'm sure she'll let me know.

Well, I guess one of the complications with public forums is that your comment, though directed at Hil, is read by all. And just like in offline life, people (me, in this case)will speak up on behalf of others.

Sometimes, and I am not speaking for Hil here, only for myself, speaking up when your feelings are hurt isn't easy to do. Especially when the person making the remark is a friend. So, just in general, I don't assume silence means a person is okay with it.