You did remind me I need to make a waxing appointment before next week, so thanks for that. If not for the connundrum that's going to be bugging me until we figure it out.

I'm amused Nora is celebrating her restraint while we talk about handcuffs and kink.

I'm totally with Scrappy though, that what's kinky has changed (even over just the past 20 years I'd say--since I started reading trashy romances, what's "normal" to put in them has gotten a lot broader). That said, I do think there's a certain amount of "French vanilla" where peole who wouldn't consider themselves kinky or into bdsm or whatever think doing X or Y is "naughty" but not something their peers don't do. A not-everyday sex act, but not like, you tell your friend and she goes "you did that with him? Omg!!" Not many people are going to be shocked these days if a partner suggests handcuffs--but they probably wouldn't so it on the first time if they're not kinky folk.

And Teppy, IJS, don't knock the electrodes and the body parts. Ahem.

And Teppy, IJS, don't knock the electrodes and the body parts. Ahem.

Uh, heh. Wasn't knocking them. TRUST ME. (Although when described as such, attaching electrodes to one's naughty bits does in fact sound like something out of Abu Ghraib, is all I'm saying.)

That's what's so vexing.

so, the question is, are "lady lumps" and "lady humps" the same thing?

I would say no. But what I would picture for humps I believe is already covered under "booty".

I know that clinically, in psychology, it means "something that one must have in order to enjoy sex/get off" but conversationally it isn't used that way any more.

In my experience, as well.

I must say I contribute to the misuse of the word "fetish". I find smart Jewish men crazy-sexy, but I don't mean I can only get off on those nights Ezra Klein is on "Countdown", although, yes, I'm so obvious about finding him cute that my mom teases me about it, oh, almost every time.(Seriously, though, he's like the long-lost, fourth-estate, Eppes. So. Adorable.) And I think Wolffe could have a slave in me if I worked at the White House and he went on about his "tight shedule" and that he just wants a quote about "Obamar" but it's not like things only work if I hear Christiane Amenpour first. I think UKers are hotter, though. And the more I ramble, it shocks me that I learn *anything* from those broadcasts...I'm into half the analysts on MSNBC...there's no blood in my brain, and yet? Thoughts about the Fed.

I know that clinically, in psychology, it means "something that one must have in order to enjoy sex/get off" but conversationally it isn't used that way any more.

Bah - I disapprove. I think it's a useful linguistic distinction and eroding it does nobody any good. t /curmudgeon

I must say I contribute to the misuse of the word "fetish".

as do I. I joke that I have a fetish for the iliac crest. It doesn't mean that I won't get off if he doesn't have one, but boy does it make it (and me) much easier.