handcuffs:kink::pot:drugs

Heh. The gateway!

Also the line of what is vanilla keeps changing. I'm 53--when I was just learning about sex, oral sex was considered "kinkier" than penetrative hetero sex. Now, the opposite is true. Since kinkiness is defined by being outside the norm, it changes as the norm changes. Kinkiness will always keep changing, unlike fetishes.

Kink to me is different than fetish. A kink implies choice to me--one can use handcuffs or not, one can have sex in a public place or not. Kink is something anyone adventurous might enjoy. One might enjoy or prefer some specific aspects of kinkiness, like BDSM, but one can enjoy one specific aspect of vanilla sex, like mutual masturbation, too.

Fetish to me implies necessity. One can ONLY enjoy sex with feet involved, for example. Kink seems to widen the possibilities where fetishes narrow it.

This is just me, of course.

And still, no one will tell me what "lady humps" are??

Uh, okay then.

Ahahaha, I just heard you saying this in my head and it cracked me up for whatever reason.

I am home sick today (as opposed to being out and about doing errands, I guess) but did try to do some chores at home, some of which were more successful than others. For example, rearranging the kitchen layout went fine, hanging the spice cabinet up with those sticky backed plastic hooks... not so much.

Because it's been like an entire day since I've gone out to eat, tonight we are going to Patois to celebrate our restraint.

And still, no one will tell me what "lady humps" are??

I wish I knew. If they weren't in the kitty section I would say they were boobies.

I looked at that brochure. I'm stumped. I mean, they have most of the usual suspects covered under other things.

Hey, can someone tell me what "Lovely Lady Humps" are?

That was a song! I didn't know what it meant then, either.

Fetish to me implies necessity. One can ONLY enjoy sex with feet involved, for example. Kink seems to widen the possibilities where fetishes narrow it.

I lament the fact that the use of the term "fetish," at least among people who claim to have fetishes, is no longer this specific, and tends to just mean "this thing that I really really REALLY dig."

I know that clinically, in psychology, it means "something that one must have in order to enjoy sex/get off" but conversationally it isn't used that way any more.

In my experience, I should say.

I also have no idea what lovely lady lumps are.

I think that the song is "My Humps", but refers to "my lovely lady lumps". Which I took to mean boobs. Why you would want those waxed, I don't know.

Which I took to mean boobs. Why you would want those waxed, I don't know.

That's what's so vexing.