{{{{Pix}}}}} Gah, i so hope you are feeling a wee bit better. i've unfortunately been through similar back/neck spasms far too many times, and "stress" is almost always the culprit. I adore the flexeril but i never "feel" it ....i just take one and then am magically able to sleep for a very long time and wake up able to move a little better and feel slightly more human. heh, if Cavnar were here he might recall the first week after i got my scrip for the stuff: i went from moping in my room to sunny disposition literally overnight.
do you have any local recs for masseuses who can do house calls? gentle massage (not deep tissue right now) can help speed up recovery...but you also want to avoid driving as much as possible, it's hell on a spasming neck.
While a hot bath seems like the best idea ever, it actually cricks the neck even more - i find standing under a hot shower to be fantastic, especially right before bed. It's hard with so much going on, but i'd recommend writing off the weekend entirely and spending as much of it sleeping and reading as possible. Don't even think of other things since you really can't do anything about them right now except make your neck worse. the spasms take time to calm down.
oh, and lying flat on yr back with an ice pack under the neck and a pillow under the knees. i read many a (small,lightweight) book that way. These are a few of my favorite things.