My girlfriends are almost exactly split down the middle re: keep/not keep.
I did debate it mildly for a bit, but I came down to "If I get my Ph.D/ever have anything published, I want to be Dr. Griggs, not Dr. J."
Mal: You tell me right now, little Kaylee, you really think you can do this? Kaylee: Sure. Yeah. I think so. 'Sides, if I mess up, not like you'll be able to yell at me.
'Bushwhacked'
Spike's Bitches 45: That sure as hell wasn't in the brochure.
[NAFDA] Spike-centric discussion. Lusty, lewd (only occasionally crude), risqué (and frisqué), bawdy (Oh, lawdy!), flirty ('cuz we're purty), raunchy talk inside. Caveat lector.
Strix - Apr 09, 2010 4:47:10 am PDT #15315 of 30000
A dress should be tight enough to show you're a woman but loose enough to flee from zombies. — Ginger
Jessica - Apr 09, 2010 4:49:08 am PDT #15316 of 30000
And then Ortus came and said "It's Ortin' time" and they all Orted off into the sunset
Squee! WEDDING!!!
Of the four couples-with-kids in our bulding that we regularly hang out with, I'm the only one who changed my name. My maiden name was a PITA to spell.
Gudanov - Apr 09, 2010 4:49:22 am PDT #15317 of 30000
Coding and Sleeping
"If I get my Ph.D/ever have anything published, I want to be Dr. Griggs, not Dr. J."
Well, yeah, you wouldn't want to be confused with Julius Irving, the famous forward of the Philadelphia 76ers
Strix - Apr 09, 2010 4:51:08 am PDT #15318 of 30000
A dress should be tight enough to show you're a woman but loose enough to flee from zombies. — Ginger
Well, now, I WOULD like to be mistaken for him: "Damn, we were expecting a very tall older black man who used to play basketball and now have a doctorate in literature!"
"Well, ya got ME!"
billytea - Apr 09, 2010 4:54:03 am PDT #15319 of 30000
You were a wrong baby who grew up wrong. The wrong kind of wrong. It's better you hear it from a friend.
Wallybee kept her name too. Taking the husband's name is pretty much unknown in China. (Kids still get their father's name. In Ryan's case, the way we see it, he has an English name and a Chinese name. His English name uses my surname and his Chinese name uses Wallybee's family name.)
Laura - Apr 09, 2010 4:55:32 am PDT #15320 of 30000
Our wings are not tired.
My wife kept her name too. There's the occasional confusion, but really not very much.
That reminds me that you were in a dream last night! It was a normal boring type dream just socializing at a park or dinner or something. You and your wife and kids and my family. Thing that clued me in to the dream state was that your wife was Stephanie! Then I was trying to figure out whether the kids were yours or hers since I knew I was dreaming, but I couldn't figure it out since I didn't recognize them. You and Stephanie didn't think anything was off.
I took Brendon's name since he likely wouldn't have wanted me to keep any of my previous married names and it had been almost 20 years since I used my maiden name. Also Laura Holt suited me fine.
ChiKat - Apr 09, 2010 5:02:37 am PDT #15321 of 30000
That man was going to shank me. Over an omelette. Two eggs and a slice of government cheese. Is that what my life is worth?
In honor of the day:
Mawage. Mawage is wot bwings us togeder tooday. Mawage, that bwessed awangment, that dweam wifin a dweam... And wuv, tru wuv, will fowow you foweva... So tweasure your wuv.
Love and blessings, Erin!!
Gudanov - Apr 09, 2010 5:09:02 am PDT #15322 of 30000
Coding and Sleeping
That reminds me that you were in a dream last night!
Funky. So, no Indian Buffista who wasn't Polter-Cow?
amych - Apr 09, 2010 5:10:09 am PDT #15323 of 30000
Now let us crush something soft and watch it fountain blood. That is a girlish thing to want to do, yes?
So, that thing where last night I squee'ee'eed about YOU'RE GETTING MARRIED TOMORROW?
YOU'RE GETTING MARRIED TODAY!!!!
As for name changing, I found that it was kind of the big pregnant belly rub of getting hitched -- my name was all kinds of everybody's business, and people I barely knew were demanding answers, and offering opinions that *everyone* (or, you know, ME) was going to SO HORRIBLY CONFUSED if I (a) changed it or (b) didn't, and... sigh. The decision to keep mine was never in doubt, but the extent to which people got torqued up about it was significantly stressful for me.
Since I got married? Not. one. person. has ever questioned it, or even blinked, or so much as said anything weirder than "nice to meet you" when introduced to Amy H and Stephen P.
erikaj - Apr 09, 2010 5:19:42 am PDT #15324 of 30000
"already on the kiss-cam with Karl Marx"-
I've decided if I marry someone whose name is easy to spell I would change.But this name is also my byline so there could be some confusion. But I think it will be no big with everyone being distracted by hell freezing over and all.