Occasionally I'm callous and strange.

Willow ,'The Killer In Me'


Spike's Bitches 45: That sure as hell wasn't in the brochure.  

[NAFDA] Spike-centric discussion. Lusty, lewd (only occasionally crude), risqué (and frisqué), bawdy (Oh, lawdy!), flirty ('cuz we're purty), raunchy talk inside. Caveat lector.


P.M. Marc - Mar 08, 2010 7:54:03 pm PST #12520 of 30000
So come, my friends, be not afraid/We are so lightly here/It is in love that we are made; In love we disappear

Yeah, pinging Susan's probably a good plan, JZ. It may even help take her mind off our annoying cold snap!


omnis_audis - Mar 08, 2010 8:00:44 pm PST #12521 of 30000
omnis, pursue. That's an order from a shy woman who can use M-16. - Shir

omnis - it's wonderful and great that you can see both sides of the issue. Not many can. But if I may suggest - there's a third side. You. Which job would do better for you, all in all?
Ya, that's the problem. I'm not sure. The job has better possibilities for future job advancement in the academia world, which I currently have *no* in-roads. But it would mean cutting out of a job early, which I don't like. I'm also a little worried about the increased work load at the new job. The pay is another concern. When you factor cost of living adjustments, and the fact CA has state income tax and TX doesn't. So, it's a bit more pay than I am getting, but not a sizable one when you do the math. So? I'm on the fence. I want to take the gig because of the school, and being part of it. I'm just a bit worried about it all. Plus, I confess, the prospect of moving across the country again, not thrilling me. I'm just starting to put money aside again from the last move. Fuck. my hesitations are more irrational. The new job would be better. Loyalty and fear are have me myriad in indecision.


meara - Mar 08, 2010 8:13:21 pm PST #12522 of 30000

I dunno, it sounds like a hassle, but...you want to be in Cali long term, right Omnis? It sounds like it's more a place for you than Texas, from what you've said. And if this job has more place for advancement AND is paying more (even if only a little tiny bit to start)...


Typo Boy - Mar 08, 2010 8:35:46 pm PST #12523 of 30000
Calli: My people have a saying. A man who trusts can never be betrayed, only mistaken.Avon: Life expectancy among your people must be extremely short.

Having lived in CA and Texas, don't know if the costs will be as much higher as you think. Yeah rents and insurance and gas and taxes higher. But food costs lower and fresher. You won't have the air conditioning bills. (More than when I lived there but still less than Texas.) Not saying it won't be more expensive net. Just not only the cost changes will be one way, so the NET difference, though still substantial may be less than you think. On the other hand, deadlock is producing a meltdown in social infrastructure since you can't raise taxes to pay for any freakin thing in California right now, thanks to stupid supermajority requirements imposed over the years. Though I seem to remember Texas not being big on taxes either.


omnis_audis - Mar 08, 2010 9:03:39 pm PST #12524 of 30000
omnis, pursue. That's an order from a shy woman who can use M-16. - Shir

When I moved here from CA, my car insurance went from about $1800 to less than $900. I dropped the deductible to $250, beefed up the coverage, and added renters insurance for under $1,000. My rent is $400 cheaper per month for 125sq ft more. My gas expense went from $40/wk to $30/month.

My electric bill average about $30 a month in CA, here it's about $80.

Didn't notice a huge difference one way or the other with food. About the only thing was more time here to make lunch, and at old SoCal job, ate out all the time.

Over all, ya, saved money here in Texas.


Hil R. - Mar 08, 2010 9:17:35 pm PST #12525 of 30000
Sometimes I think I might just move up to Vermont, open a bookstore or a vegan restaurant. Adam Schlesinger, z''l

I don't really know enough about CA and TX prices to help with that.

Should I ask my officemate if he can give me a ride out to the kosher supermarket so that I can buy Passover food? I need a ride, and he has a car and will probably be willing to drive me, but I'm not sure I can deal with having to explain what every item in the store is. I could take a Zipcar, but I'm a wimp about driving unfamiliar places without GPS. (Well, I'm a justifiable wimp about that -- I have no sense of direction, and once I'm off the grid system, if I turn onto an unfamiliar road, I pretty much just have to keep making random turns until I find a street I recognize. There are way too many roads between here and there for me to memorize the map.)


omnis_audis - Mar 08, 2010 9:35:49 pm PST #12526 of 30000
omnis, pursue. That's an order from a shy woman who can use M-16. - Shir

Hil, that's a tough choice. Do you think he will embarrass you in the shoppe? But then again, food is food. Does your phone have GPS? Or a laptop that is 3g enabled?


brenda m - Mar 09, 2010 2:13:43 am PST #12527 of 30000
If you're going through hell/keep on going/don't slow down/keep your fear from showing/you might be gone/'fore the devil even knows you're there

Oh man, Hil, that's tough. Because it would be a total field trip. Like the vampire tours in New Orleans. Washington Passover Tour! Would it help if you printed out google maps directions?


billytea - Mar 09, 2010 2:16:15 am PST #12528 of 30000
You were a wrong baby who grew up wrong. The wrong kind of wrong. It's better you hear it from a friend.

Heh. We seem to have run into a cultural miscommunication. Wallybee's father wanted to have a serious talk with her this morning. He's concerned about the amount of beer she's been drinking lately. He noticed there were several bottles in the recycling bin lately.

After she stopped laughing, she explained to him the concept of 'ginger beer'. Later that day, she found an empty bottle on his desk, along with an English-Chinese dictionary. She's still laughing about it.


Shir - Mar 09, 2010 2:24:07 am PST #12529 of 30000
"And that's why God Almighty gave us fire insurance and the public defender".

Ask the officemate. Consider it as an anthropological experiment, only with him as the expermintee.

omnis, love, I have no idea what to say. In your shoes, I'd just wait for a sign or something, telling me to move.

I'm hungry and want to have lunch, but it's hot and there's stupid haze outside which makes it hard to breath. But I've been hungry for 20 minutes now, so I think I'll suck it up and go the 10 minutes back and forth to get myself sushied (following brilliant officemate suggestion).

And now, in the English Isn't My Native Tongue corner:

I currently have *no* in-roads

I have no idea what that means.