They're in my thoughts, askye.

Much ~ma for SLNRLBF's son. How scary! May the doctors quickly find out what's wrong, and may it be easily treatable.

Lot's of health~ma for the boy, askye.

Looks like I am moving south mid-April. Need to go there again some time this weekend and figure out where we put stuff and that kind of thing. Papers signed and check written so it is a done deal. It is a good thing to move every 10 years or so. The closets never get cleaned out properly any other way.

Congrats, Laura! May the move go smoothly, and the closets be cleaned effortlessly.

To the place you showed us Laura? Woot, time for buffistas to party! :)

I am early crew this morning! My BIL apparently woke up at 3:30AM, so I heard him showering around 7, and when there were still persistent moving around sounds at 7:30, I figured on investigating--turns out even my slothful sister, who is like me, was awake! At that point I figured I'd be good host and get up too, so she's in the shower, and he and I are ready to go, go check out the city. It's supposed to be a good day!

I have an etiquette question. Let me give you the background saga.

I'm going to the Leverage con in a couple weeks. When I got my tickets, the hotel was sold out. A month before the con, and no rooms had opened up. Someone posted on the forum looking for a roommate. Now I hate sharing rooms, but I also hate being in a different hotel, so I took the offer and paid my share. Then I realized that I was not going to be #4; there were already 4 women and I would be #5, which I didn't realize until someone said "Hope you don't mind sleeping on the floor!" But I already paid so I gritted my teeth and let it go. Then, surprise, a room opened up at the hotel, and I grabbed it. I posted my glee on Twitter. One of the women I was supposed to be sharing with - now Following me, surprise - emailed me like 2 seconds later asking frantically what was going on. I explained, she got a little snippy. Now, I know they might all have had to change their plans if I pulled out, but I had already paid them and I wasn't asking for my money back. The woman who had collected the money then emailed me. (I fully intended to email her about the sitch, but I was busy that day, and I didn't see it as urgent since after all they were better off now, getting money for nothing.) I explained again, and said that since I'd already paid them and I still didn't have a room for Thursday, maybe I could stay with them that night. (My share was almost enough to cover a room for one night. I thought I was being extra polite to even *ask* if I could.) Her response was that maybe they could squeeze me in.

Squeeze me in? To a room I've already paid for? For one night, when I'd originally planned to stay with them for three?

Now I really don't want to stay in the same room with these ladies, even more than I didn't want to before.

So, the etiquette question: Today on LJ a woman posted that her roommate for the con had backed out, and she was looking for either a roommate or crash space. Would it be bad form for me to suggest that she take my place, and pay me what I paid them? How would I go about suggesting this? I don't know the woman who's looking, but I don't these other women either, so... I don't know if I should just leave well enough alone, or what. I'd really like to get a room for myself for that night, but I can't quite justify spending more money when I've already paid $140.

So, what do I do? Suck it up, spend the extra money for a room, or brazenly suggest they talk to someone else about taking my place?

I hate complications.

Zen, I think, as pissy as they are about your plans, it might make it worse for a new person to walk into that drama. If I were you, I'd spend the extra money for a room. If you want to save money, you could ask the new person to share with you, which would save you money, solve the new person's room issues AND get you out of the situation with the Pissy McPissersons.

They have your money and now don't want you to stay with them? That is really shitty.

eta: I know you don't want to stay with *them*

Cash, I think you're right. What I really want is to have my own room, so I'll get myself one. The books I'm about to sell will cover the money I lost. And I really shouldn't inflict those women on anyone else!

I thought you were great, not asking for the money back, but since they are not sure they can squeeze you in for one night now that they have your money, it would not be wrong to say, "Oh that's ok, since it would be such trouble for you to let me stay in a room that I have already paid for, I will do you the favor of accepting my money back, so your conscience won't be troubled."