Dawn: I thought you were adequate. Giles: And the accolades keep pouring in. I'd best take my leave before my head swells any larger. Good night.

'First Date'


Natter 64: Yes, we still need you  

Off-topic discussion. Wanna talk about corsets, duct tape, or physics? This is the place. Detailed discussion of any current-season TV must be whitefonted.


Shir - Sep 14, 2009 9:49:24 pm PDT #8844 of 30001
"And that's why God Almighty gave us fire insurance and the public defender".

I love Nilly, and last night I had the ultimate prove for it: I wore pantyhose, the evilest of all clothing attire, to meet the modesty's requirement for religious weddings.

Oh, wait. This is how this post wasn't meant to be opened.

I love Nilly, and no doubt the rest of the few hundreds that arrived to her wedding felt the same. When I walked around there, I felt soaked in love - and that was just me, a guest! So I can't imagine what it must have felt like to Nilly. I basked in that feeling for at least 30-40 minutes, just going around the room, feeling comfortable smiling and greeting even people I don't really know.

But the real greeter was Nilly. Walking into the room where she had so many guests to greet (and a chair just for her!), she looked more beautiful and radiant than I ever remembered her. And smiling, smiling and smiling. And the thing about Nilly, you know, is that she does everything with full intent. I have no idea how many problems were solved and crisises been avoided, but I've seen her handling several - and moving from one to another smiling. I don't think she even noticed them, for after every time her face got serious for a few seconds, handling a situation or another, she was back with the happys.

And when someone's like this, you just wanna be around them. I mean, just by looking at Nilly's smiling pictures from last night I can't help but smiling and melting and wanting to be around her and this event, again.

After a while, H. came to Nilly. The awesome band then joined him. It was wonderful. After that, Nilly stayed on her chair, turning everything and everyone away for a few minutes, saying prayer on behalf of those who asked her to. Again, with nothing but full intent, just like the one she'll be showing during the chuppah, switching between the seriousness and the meaningfulness of the prayers, the smiling and laughter all along, and the love, love, love that was in the room. The ceremony was conducted by one of the major rabbis in Israel, Rabbi Drukman, and it was wonderful. Between the parts that usually silence fills, the band was playing. A lot of relatives graced them from the chuppah itself, too.

And after it, came the food. And the dancing. So much dancing! I mean, I danced a lot, but Nilly danced at least 6 times more than me by the time I left the wedding. With everyone (females), almost everytime, stopping to take her picture with a guest from time to time, and slipping into the men's dancing section from time to time, to see and dance with and take her pictures with H. and the men.

All in all: There's a part of me that thinks that when Nilly wrote "one night to rule them all" she truly meant it, for she was ruling everything and everyone just by entering with her smile and grace into everyone's hearts. I've been there for 4 and a half hours, and it felt like 45 minutes, tops. Nilly, I hope the joy and happiness that was all over in your wedding will escort you and H. to your new lives and always be there. It was truly amazing. Thank you.

I hope the pictures, once that Nilly will approve them to be public, will clarify the things that I can't put into words. Because this post feels too little for such a joyful event.


Fay - Sep 14, 2009 11:46:58 pm PDT #8845 of 30001
"Fuck Western ideologically-motivated gender identification!" Sulu gasped, and came.

Oh, God, Shir - that's just lovely. Dude. You made me cry at work.

So glad you got to be there, and SO glad that Nilly had such a beautiful time with people who love her. She is very much beloved, is our girl, and I know that I'm not alone in wishing wishing wishing I could have been there too.


Fiona - Sep 15, 2009 12:32:11 am PDT #8846 of 30001

What a beautiful report. Thanks, Shir! I've not had the pleasure of meeting Nilly yet but I have no trouble imagining her exactly as you describe. And I'm sure she knows the other Buffistas were there in spirit.

Nilly, my very, very best wishes to you and your husband for now and for the rest of your lives together. Wishing you all the happiness in the world.


Shir - Sep 15, 2009 1:26:17 am PDT #8847 of 30001
"And that's why God Almighty gave us fire insurance and the public defender".

OK, first aid question:

I managed to hit my finger into a nail that was hidden in the banister, but not that hard, so now there's a bubble of blood under my skin. I figured I need to get it out somehow, but I don't have any sterile needle on me or anything like that. My own nails don't help much.

Is it bad to leave it like that for a few hours until I'll get home and my nurse-mom will handle it? Should I try and burst it out myself? (I have few decorative pins on me, but they're hardly what you'll call sterile.


Laura - Sep 15, 2009 1:43:50 am PDT #8848 of 30001
Our wings are not tired.

Let mom take care of it, Shir.

I can't thank you enough for the wedding detail. I have witnessed the joy and love that surrounds Nilly's smile so it is easy to imagine the scene.


Sue - Sep 15, 2009 2:09:18 am PDT #8849 of 30001
hip deep in pie

What a lovely report. Thanks, Shir.

I hope you and Nilly were feeling the love for all of us.


Theodosia - Sep 15, 2009 2:31:31 am PDT #8850 of 30001
'we all walk this earth feeling we are frauds. The trick is to be grateful and hope the caper doesn't end any time soon"

What a lovely thing to read first thing!


Jesse - Sep 15, 2009 2:53:50 am PDT #8851 of 30001
Sometimes I trip on how happy we could be.

Yay! Thanks, Shir.


WindSparrow - Sep 15, 2009 2:58:27 am PDT #8852 of 30001
Love is stronger than death and harder than sorrow. Those who practice it are fierce like the light of stars traveling eons to pierce the night.

Much joy to Nilly and her new DH. Thanks, Shir, for sharing this with us.


Frankenbuddha - Sep 15, 2009 3:37:11 am PDT #8853 of 30001
"We are the Goon Squad and we're coming to town...Beep! Beep!" - David Bowie, "Fashion"

Thank you for sharing that, Shir!