Write another book about it!

I'm conflicted. I realize that if I didn't smoke and I lost some lbs, I'd have a lot more bites, especially in Los Angeles. I don't hold any grudges there.

But that doesn't mean I'd settle for stupid, or someone who makes me cringe to look at them. Hey, I'm shallow, too. If you're 35 and look older than my dad, I just can't see you in a romantic way.

It'd be difficult to write without more than occasionally dipping my toes in hypocrisy.

I don't know that I'd call it hypocrisy to feel it's important to be attracted to the person you're dating.

We all have things that ping us as desirable, whether it's hair color or smarts or big hands, and things that just torpedo the sex drive, whatever that is, back hair or ASSCAPS or belching. And we place all these moral values on those qualities and say some are more acceptable things to be attracted to (smarts) and some more shallow (eye color). But I sometimes wonder. I think the important issue for me in terms of morals is how we treat them as people, not what we find attractive about them.

Thanks for the birthday wishes, folks.

hey, even with brain damage, I'm too cool for ASSCAPS. Although I'd love to get another one, just to write: I'M JUST NOT THAT INTO YOU!1 and send it back.

I don't know that I'd call it hypocrisy to feel it's important to be attracted to the person you're dating.

This.

I was just having a conversation at work about how maybe the people who say you're too picky are the ones who have settled in a bad way.

This. Although I probably am picky for being a finalist in the Better off Dead pageant with a "good personality" that I don't think is that good. But I'm funny about how much I suck. And because Entourage like carrots, I'm kind of reminded of this: TURTLE(Watching Vince run off with hotties again):Man, I'd give my nuts to be him, for one day.

DRAMA: But without your nuts, what would be the point?(considers) Unless you get Vince's nuts.

And let's be honest, there are a lot of people out there who think people who are overweight, or not gorgeous, or have this flaw or that (me = bossy, child, loud) shouldn't be surprised that we are single. I've been flat out told that the population that would find me as an attractive mate is really very small.

I've been flat out told that the population that would find me as an attractive mate is really very small.

That's crazy talk!

Me too, more or less. But in my case, they think they're being kind.

I've been flat out told that the population that would find me as an attractive mate is really very small.

Me too. I hear that as well. I'm okay with being alone in a way I wasn't before, but it'd be nice to find someone, you know?

I feel like my hypocrisy is being angry that people i think are beneath me intelligence-wise are insulting by thinking they have a shot with me. I mean, I am sure that there are lots of people who think I'm beneath them physically-attractiveness-wise, are they angry when i send them a wink?

I don't know. Maybe it's unfair to be angry.