From what I've read and seen (including slash, dear god, including slash), all gay men have anal sex, and anal sex always comes with a dose of pain, extra when it's your butt v-card. For a director to say "Gay sex hurts, Daniel! We have to make sure this is conveyed in our movie!" it's...it's a face, not a facet. If we did have the sort of proportional appearances in stories that has been suggested accomplished, then a range should be representative too.
Just because there are lazy stupid criminal black people doesn't mean I don't get agitated when they start dealing the cards from the negative end of the stats.