I walk. I talk. I shop, I sneeze. I'm gonna be a fireman when the floods roll back. There's trees in the desert since you moved out. And I don't sleep on a bed of bones.

Buffy ,'Chosen'


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Aims - Mar 17, 2009 4:53:42 am PDT #3832 of 30000
Shit's all sorts of different now.

We are on wait lists all over the place for daycares, but the closest anyone has come to saying they'll have a space for us is "maybe in September."

Holy crap!


flea - Mar 17, 2009 4:54:19 am PDT #3833 of 30000
information libertarian

Nanny share issues to address with the family: how will any disputes be resolved - disputes between the families, and disputes with the nanny? Have a policy in place. Is there a written contract with the nanny? Are you square with taxes and legal issues? (I am sure you have this aspect well in hand!) Will the families work together to cover when the nanny is sick? What if a child is mildly ill?

The biggest problem with nanny sharing (aside from the expense) is getting along with the other people (the other family and the nanny). If you can talk NOW about how to handle disagreements that may come up in the future, you can save yourself a lot of grief. Having done both, and as an introvert, I have found group daycare to be much easier in terms of my stress level from dealing with other humans. On the plus side, you can develop close relationships.


Sparky1 - Mar 17, 2009 4:58:34 am PDT #3834 of 30000
Librarian Warlord

Thanks, flea.

The tax and the legal issues are the easy part, as far as I'm concerned! (And the other family is doing this all legally, and I'm still appalled at the number of people who don't.)


sj - Mar 17, 2009 5:02:33 am PDT #3835 of 30000
"There are few hours in life more agreeable than the hour dedicated to the ceremony known as afternoon tea."

The trashydiva website has some good sales going on today, for anyone that likes their clothes.


Ginger - Mar 17, 2009 6:10:17 am PDT #3836 of 30000
"It didn't taste good. It tasted soooo horrible. It tasted like....a vodka martini." - Matilda

Fay, I've lived in South Georgia and in a 1904 farmhouse in rural middle Georgia, so I've had some experience. All but the most ramshackle houses would have screens. In the country, as others have said, the water source is almost all wells and that requires electricity. If the pump shuts off for almost any reason, it will have to be reprimed. (Envision me at midnight in my gown and slippers taking a container of water outside to the well house, while cursing a blue streak.) Alabama does have artesian wells, which will supply water without a pump.

The people across the street from us had no plumbing, so they still had an outhouse. You occasionally run across people who've kept their outhouses up, but they're now pretty tightly regulated. However, if you can get water from anywhere, you can flush a toilet by pouring water into it. You'd have a septic tank work for some years.

In terms of critters inside the house, we had palmetto bugs (giant flying roaches about 2 inches long), ants, field mice, packrats (that was fun) and squirrels in the attic. Outside there'd be lots of mosquitoes, plus paper wasps and way too many caterpillar like things eating the garden and shrubbery. There are fireflies in early summer. There are the aforementioned fire ants. They build big mounds and their bite is like being touched with a soldering iron, then the worst itching ever. If it's a brushy or overgrown yard, there will be probably be chiggers and ticks. Deer are a big problem in most rural areas, and they busily munched on my garden too.


P.M. Marc - Mar 17, 2009 6:50:23 am PDT #3837 of 30000
So come, my friends, be not afraid/We are so lightly here/It is in love that we are made; In love we disappear

Hey Fay, have some visuals! [link]

(This whole group [link] is awesome.)

How long are you thinking it had been abandoned? Remember, you'll have to adjust your level of decay to match.


Hil R. - Mar 17, 2009 6:51:53 am PDT #3838 of 30000
Sometimes I think I might just move up to Vermont, open a bookstore or a vegan restaurant. Adam Schlesinger, z''l

Also, with the screens, depending on how long it's been abandoned, some or all of them will probably be torn, thus making them somewhat useless for keeping out bugs.


Typo Boy - Mar 17, 2009 7:02:55 am PDT #3839 of 30000
Calli: My people have a saying. A man who trusts can never be betrayed, only mistaken.Avon: Life expectancy among your people must be extremely short.

If for some reason you want it in slightly better shape, make it empty but not abandoned. Someone inherits from poor rural relatives, and it is on the edge of a woods with good hunting, and they are hunters, so they pay electricity and property taxes and do really minimal maintenance like taping screens to use a couple of times a year for hunting.

Also metal roofs can hold up forever, though they don't always. So you can plausibly have the roof in good shape if you need to, even if it is abandoned.


tommyrot - Mar 17, 2009 8:24:32 am PDT #3840 of 30000
Sir, it's not an offence to let your cat eat your bacon. Okay? And we don't arrest cats, I'm very sorry.

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tommyrot - Mar 17, 2009 9:56:01 am PDT #3841 of 30000
Sir, it's not an offence to let your cat eat your bacon. Okay? And we don't arrest cats, I'm very sorry.

Son of Kerfuffle poll: [link]

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