For those of you who identify as bisexual, have you had equally long relationships with same sex as you have with opposite sex partners?

I've had two girlfriends, one for five months and one for two years. KBD is my only adult relationship with a guy, we're at one year and counting. In between girls and guys was eight years of being single. Not sure I'm any kind of representative sample.

Thanks, Smonster and Ms. Marcontell!

Daniel's been doing voices again. I'm not sure if it's supposed to Sean Connery doing an imitation of Jimmy Stewart, or Jimmy Stewart doing a Sean Connery imitation, though.

Also, it sure seems as though he has set his mind on being a Vogon for Hallowe'en - he's definitely working on some really bad poetry.

Thank heavens it's not in the funny voice.

Yeah. Did someone mention weird?

I have found some Indian girls on OKCupid but haven't worked up the nerve to send a message. Especially since some "reply very selectively."

I'm with EpicTangent - if the worst outcome is no reply, go for it! (I found online dating to be something of a numbers game - I didn't get a reply from most of the contacts I made. The ones who did reply made it worth it. The one who contacted me I married.)

I've almost never seen white guy/black woman

That's my brother now. He's marrying a Kenyan woman. I think too that Caucasian guy/Asian woman seems more common than Asian guy/Caucasian woman.

My mother once told me that, if I don't marry a Jewish guy, an Asian guy is the next best choice, because Asians put the same value on education that Jews do.

That's actually one reason why my in-laws like me, because I treat education as a value. (Wallybee's parents are both well-educated; her father is a biochemistry professor, and her mother both practises and teaches dentistry.) I will also note, Wallybee caught flak from some people who were ostensibly her friends for marrying a white guy. Her parents have been nothing but supportive.

I've several times come across message boards where idiots in their early twenties chirpily proclaimed that daring to get knocked up after 30 is tantamount to child abuse.

As you can see, the outcome of our 30+ pregnancy is clearly suffering: [link]

(That reminds me - we have new photos! I'll do a link later.)

I think that black women aren't mythologically attractive. White women are an ideal, and there's fetishistic imagery around Asian women. Black men have a Mandingo stud mythos. Asian men and black women have nothing--the best my stereotype can do is animalistically available.

I'd like to think that this is just a bunch of crap. I do wonder, though.

billy, if I haven't said it before, it needs saying: awesome cute little mammal you've got there!

apart from relationships with Asian or Indian people, who apparently don't mix with blacks at all ever.

I can only think of one Asian/Black couple in my sphere of influence and that's a cousin, who is Japanese-American, and her husband, who is black. They have the cutest damn kids.

I think that black women aren't mythologically attractive.

I honestly don't get this. I agree with your assessment, just don't understand why anyone would feel that way.

One thing you might find interesting, I don't know if this has ever come up in your family, ita, but there was (at least at some point in time) a distinct prejudice among blacks against blacks who married whites. It may be just an American thing, I don't know. When one of my black coworkers (back in the early 80s) married a white woman, his friends really came down hard on him. They felt he was saying that black women weren't good enough for him by marrying a white. It really caused some problems in their marriage. Is there still that kind of a feeling out there? As I say, I only have a sample size of one couple, but when every other black man in the squadron got on Kenny's case about it, it sure made it seem like it was an endemic belief.

For those of you who identify as bisexual, have you had equally long relationships with same sex as you have with opposite sex partners?

No, but it was always harder to find women who wanted to go out with me. Men are the low hanging fruit.

Yep, Plei is me. I think the other huge factor, though, is my age. When I was in high school and college, it was not okay to be bisexual, let alone gay. It was really hard to find anyone who was bi (or bi-friendly, because that isn't common among women who like women), so I ended up spending a lot of time lusting and longing after women I'd fallen for without having a clue how to do anything about it. Men were easy and available, and I though they were cute too, so...I went with that. But I've been in love with women, no doubt, and I suspect if I hadn't met ND when I did, I would have pursued women more actively than men when I was ready to date again. It's a very different world than it was when I was younger.

We have a very unusual situation, we have a neighbor that is Indian and his wife is black.

And being the place for all the kids to hang, will make a huge difference even if Owen is a it different It would be hard for me, but I would make my house very welcoming if I had kids. I think it will make a world of difference. I'll send you any extra energy I have

Also, I went to the doctor today, who tested me for strep and mono and sent me home with antibiotics just in case. It's probably a virus, but we won't know for sure until Monday. In the meantime, I'm supposed to rest and have fluids. Halloween is going to be a bit of a bummer this year. On the positive side, my darling ND went out and bought a ton of groceries so I have food to eat without leaving the house. He's stuck working most of the weekend, but I have food! This is good.