Thanks, guys! He's just so amazing. He actually READ A BOOK TO his class last week. I love that his teachers work with his gifts and he really does feel like he's got friends. That is what's important.

Cashmere, face it, a lot of us Buffistas are weird. We pride ourselves on it. We are loved for it. And we love it.

There's a lot to be said for a smallish town in that regard.

Let me introduce you to the flamboyantly gay from the age of nada kid who played the wicked stepmother in Cinderella IN THE EIGHTH GRADE and was cheered wildly for it. This was nearly thrity years ago. ::feels woozy::

I still see him now and then -- he lives here in the city and is a hella awesome interior designer. We marvel at the absolutely zero crap he took growing up.

Please note: He is older than I.

For those of you who identify as bisexual, have you had equally long relationships with same sex as you have with opposite sex partners?

I've had two girlfriends, one for five months and one for two years. KBD is my only adult relationship with a guy, we're at one year and counting. In between girls and guys was eight years of being single. Not sure I'm any kind of representative sample.

Thanks, Smonster and Ms. Marcontell!

Daniel's been doing voices again. I'm not sure if it's supposed to Sean Connery doing an imitation of Jimmy Stewart, or Jimmy Stewart doing a Sean Connery imitation, though.

Also, it sure seems as though he has set his mind on being a Vogon for Hallowe'en - he's definitely working on some really bad poetry.

Thank heavens it's not in the funny voice.

Yeah. Did someone mention weird?

I have found some Indian girls on OKCupid but haven't worked up the nerve to send a message. Especially since some "reply very selectively."

I'm with EpicTangent - if the worst outcome is no reply, go for it! (I found online dating to be something of a numbers game - I didn't get a reply from most of the contacts I made. The ones who did reply made it worth it. The one who contacted me I married.)

I've almost never seen white guy/black woman

That's my brother now. He's marrying a Kenyan woman. I think too that Caucasian guy/Asian woman seems more common than Asian guy/Caucasian woman.

My mother once told me that, if I don't marry a Jewish guy, an Asian guy is the next best choice, because Asians put the same value on education that Jews do.

That's actually one reason why my in-laws like me, because I treat education as a value. (Wallybee's parents are both well-educated; her father is a biochemistry professor, and her mother both practises and teaches dentistry.) I will also note, Wallybee caught flak from some people who were ostensibly her friends for marrying a white guy. Her parents have been nothing but supportive.

I've several times come across message boards where idiots in their early twenties chirpily proclaimed that daring to get knocked up after 30 is tantamount to child abuse.

As you can see, the outcome of our 30+ pregnancy is clearly suffering: [link]

(That reminds me - we have new photos! I'll do a link later.)

I think that black women aren't mythologically attractive. White women are an ideal, and there's fetishistic imagery around Asian women. Black men have a Mandingo stud mythos. Asian men and black women have nothing--the best my stereotype can do is animalistically available.

I'd like to think that this is just a bunch of crap. I do wonder, though.

billy, if I haven't said it before, it needs saying: awesome cute little mammal you've got there!

apart from relationships with Asian or Indian people, who apparently don't mix with blacks at all ever.

I can only think of one Asian/Black couple in my sphere of influence and that's a cousin, who is Japanese-American, and her husband, who is black. They have the cutest damn kids.

I think that black women aren't mythologically attractive.

I honestly don't get this. I agree with your assessment, just don't understand why anyone would feel that way.

One thing you might find interesting, I don't know if this has ever come up in your family, ita, but there was (at least at some point in time) a distinct prejudice among blacks against blacks who married whites. It may be just an American thing, I don't know. When one of my black coworkers (back in the early 80s) married a white woman, his friends really came down hard on him. They felt he was saying that black women weren't good enough for him by marrying a white. It really caused some problems in their marriage. Is there still that kind of a feeling out there? As I say, I only have a sample size of one couple, but when every other black man in the squadron got on Kenny's case about it, it sure made it seem like it was an endemic belief.